Quote: “Do or do not… there is no try.” – Yoda
In Sight: I love the above quote, and yet it can be a hard pill to swallow. We love the word “try”, to move things into an either “do or don’t” situation seems very limiting. And what’s wrong with trying anyway? Isn’t trying good enough? What’s wrong is that to try is to not commit. To “try” is to leave ourselves with room for NOT doing what we have said we will “try” to do. Trying leaves room for failure and for a lack of discipline as well.
Most of us have seen a movie at some point where an athlete is tested to the limits of his/her endurance. Said athlete then wants to give up but somewhere either due to an amazing coach or support system or by sheer force of will the athlete overcomes the hardship and actually does what they set out to do. Why? Because for that person just trying wasn’t good enough.
But those are extreme cases, in typical daily life we use the word try often to indicate that we lack commitment to whatever we said we were going to attempt. “I’ll try to clean my house”, “I’ll try to call”, “I’ll try to be more soft spoken”, “I’ll try to stay within my budget”. what are we really saying?
We’re acknowledging that doing these things are good ideas while still allowing room for *not* doing them, still allowing room for excuses. Why? How does this serve us as we seek to lead better more authentic lives, lives that are the reflection of our Truth and Bliss? The truth is that it doesn’t help us at all.
Often try is a way for us to give the “soft no” – it can be a way of us not having to say no -but being able to indicate our “no” with our actions. Try can be a means of us allowing ourselves to be continually pulled in more directions than we can commit to. “I’ll try to help with the event”, “I’ll try to help out with the PTA meeting”, “I’ll try to help you move”. By saying “Do or do not” we must choose. It requires mindfully deciding on a certain course and eliminating other options. It requires us to become intimate with our own state and not to handle our precious selves arbitrarily.
It forces us to slow down and look at what is truly possible and what is not. This doesn’t have to be limiting in a bad way. We can use these opportunities to take stock and re-evaluate what we’re doing and how we’re using our resources – time, energy, finances etc. If we find that there are many things we desire to “do” but are unable to commit to we can then redistribute things. “Trying” puts this ability outside ourselves, whereas “Do or do not” is a statement of personal responsibility. When we stop “trying” we may find that we have more energy and greater clarity. For we who serve “do or do not” can bring more excellence to our service, and also aid in our commitment to the One we serve in that we must seek Direction *prior* to committing. This can facilitate communication between us.
In “The Four Agreements” the last agreement is “Do your best”, notice that it is not “try your best”. Committing makes it an action. “Trying” keeps it in the realm of a thought. As we take more actions that align with the Lives we desire to live we will find ourselves manifesting that life daily. We create that life. Creation is not trying, creation is doing. Activity: For this week avoid using the word “try”. Keep a journal of opportunities when you wanted to say “try” and if you committed to doing or not doing in those situations. What was the result? If not saying try is very difficult for you use a coin toss! Heads you say “I will, I do” tails you say “I won’t, I do not” rather you find yourself adhering to the results of the coin toss or not – often making it so tangibly yes or no can be a great too to bringing clarity to if your soul is saying “yes or no” to something.
Questions: What are your observations of this experience? What did you find out about yourself? What impact did it have on others? Is there a difference between try and attempt for you? What is it? What can you begin to “do” an “do not” within the realm of service or surrender?
Affirmations: (use only the ones that resonate as true for you)
I am actively committing to _______________.
Saying no to one thing means saying Yes to something else!
I can do whatever I will to do!
I am doing what I will to do.
In Laughter, Love, and Lustiness,