It has long been curious to me how we women frequently do not allow ourselves to be very comfortable with our own bodies.
I should say that I’m typing this while sitting in the lotus position of our bed- naked.
Naked is my preferred state of being and I go without clothing as often as possible.
I do most of my best writing while naked- there is something about the vulnerability that gives me deeper access to my true feelings.
But I digress.
While many women are comfortable going topless – even the most liberal and free among us has usually been taught and conditioned that we should always keep what’s going on “down there” covered up.
My Beloved and I were talking about this the other day – how men have absolute body acceptance. They feel no shame or discomfort with grabbing their genitals and touching themselves in absolute pleasure or mere curiosity.
Women on the other hand – we have been taught that “good girls” keep their legs closed and beyond hygiene aren’t too concerned with what’s going on “down there”
And by hygiene, I mean using every product known to man to keep it clean, disinfected and smelling like the roses on the countryside.
Freaking roses? Really??
I love to work with women in learning to inhabit themselves- and I mean ALL of themselves including their sex.
The first step of that is learning to get comfortable with what we call it.
Va-ja-ja. Pussy. Cunt. Yoni. Pink Monkey.
I bet you had a visceral response to those terms. Some seem “okay” and others not so much. Some even repulsive.
If a rose by any other name still smells as sweet – I’d say a calling a vagina a pussy doesn’t diminish it any either.
While we usually feel super spiritual if we call it a Yoni. And somewhat intellectual and clinical when we call it a Vagina – what feeling come up when you call it a pussy? A cunt?
Does it feel hot, sexy, lush (be honest). Or shameful, wicked – even SINFUL.
Ask yourself this – how can any name you chose to call a part of your own body be WRONG? Bad? Off limits?
Many make a woman’s sense of empowerment all about what’s going on outside of her, or what others are doing- I believe that empowerment begins WITHIN.
And there’s no place where women have more issues with inhabiting ourselves than with our sex.
Hidden – it is the black box. Unopened, untouched, disconnected.
We may be fine with the pleasure it can provide. The children it slides into the world. The cozy oasis it provides for our Beloveds.
But do we really form a relationship with it? Do we really know how to connect?
Let’s start with how we call it. What terms do you find delicious? Which ones do you find offensive? What name/term do you feel most embodies the relationship you have with your ______.
Live. Love. Lush and Fearless,
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