On mothering: Why mothers are depleted.

My darlings,

I’m going to tell you what is depleting western mothers. One reason why there is so much exhaustion and frustration.

There is a confusion between mothering and managing.

Most mothers are managing- which is tiring and requires respite from for feminine women. Managing has at its root, to control, to take in hand, to exercise power over.

But mothering is more about nurturing- which is educating, bringing forth, nourishing.

Don’t just read that beloved… Feel that.

There’s an innate ease to it.

A softening.

We tend to confuse the two.

When mothers are managing our children, parenting is tiring. We try to control them and everything in their environment. It’s about trying to MAKE things happen or trying to Prevent other things from happening. It’s fear based.

When we’re nurturing, we trust. Nurturing is open space. It’s talking with, not at or to. It’s observing not for the sake of judging but for the sake of knowing what’s coming forth. It’s gardening in an organic manner. It’s love based.

When you’re tired as a mom, ask yourself where you’re attempting to manage your child’s human experience rather than nurture it. It makes a huge difference my loves.

Love,