We share some thoughts with a male student on relationships. These thoughts were so juicy and helpful we decided to share them here:
We understand that you believe that you want to be with someone who is like you. You are strong willed and like everything to be your way. It is totally natural for you to think that it makes the most sense with your strength you need to be with someone who is also strong. The truth is- YES – you definitely need someone who is as strong as you are- but you need someone with a different TYPE of strength.
On a team you have different positions, that’s what makes the team strong – everyone having different strengths.
On a ship – the second in command is just as vital as the captain – but does not occupy the same position.
A lamp has huge potential but in order to achieve it- the cord must be able to insert into the outlet. Two cords do nothing together, two outlets do nothing together. But a lamp and a outlet- they are compatible and can light up a room.
We would say do not believe the myth of sameness. It is wisdom to seek out a person whose strengths complement yours and who is also compatible with you. Seek out someone with polarity – which is difference – from you as well. This is how you create a strong team. Yes, it’s not the popular choice – but it is the effective one, and how you’ll build a strong relationship longterm. One that not only goes the distance, but also stays delicious.
We love you.
~Richard and Namaste