I talk to women all the time who are afraid. Whatever their purpose, their passion, their desire – they have not and will not leap into it.
“Let me just…”
“I just need to…”
Is this you?
I understand you ladies. Trust me. I understand because I’ve been there…
So afraid of making the wrong move, so afraid of what comes next. The Devil you know versus the one you don’t. Settling for whatever is currently present rather than reaching for the stars. Always seeking to “get my ducks in a row” before I’m ready. Getting ready to get ready.
Been there done that.
It reminds me of this passage from a Sacred Text:
“Jesus said to another, “Follow me.” He said, “Certainly, but first excuse me for a couple of days, please. I have to make arrangements for my father’s funeral.” Jesus refused. “First things first. Your business is life, not death. And life is urgent: Announce God’s kingdom!”Then another said, “I’m ready to follow you, Master, but first excuse me while I get things straightened out at home.” Jesus said, “No procrastination. No backward looks. You can’t put God’s kingdom off till tomorrow. Seize the day.” Luke 9:59-61
As a child when I read this – I didn’t understand it at all. I pondered why Jesus wouldn’t want someone to bury their parent (after all thats what it means to honor your parents, right?) or not even to say goodbye?? I mean really- can’t he wait for a moment? Sheesh!
Then one day I was listening to someone tell me why she couldn’t do something that she claimed she wanted to do. And it dropped into me. … “it’s procrastination. That’s the problem.”
Jesus understood the tendency to procrastinate means there’s ALWAYS a “good reason” to wait, to hesitate, to NOT commit. We often don’t see these things as procrastination because we feel like we DO want to do it, there’s just a thing we need to do – FIRST.
It’s what I call the “Yeah, buts”
“What’s the problem with that?” you ask. This negatively impacts a persons vibration. There’s a “yes” and a “no” present in the vibrational field. When that occurs you magnetize whichever is the dominant feeling.
And the dominant feeling is the one with more emotion attached to it. So if the “yes” is diffuse and ephemeral and the “no” is visceral and full of fear – guess which one you attract?
Which means that more and more things come up to make your “No” abundant. To give you more “no”.
I hear this occasionally when a woman feels my Work calling to her.
“I feel like I need get enrolled in SOFT, but I just need to get somethings in order first”. And I listen to the doubt, the fear and holding back in her vibration. I hear: “I’m scared”.
“I’m feeling like I’m supposed to work with you! It came to me last night… – I’ll do a consult I just need to work on myself first” and I hear: “I need to be “right” first”
All of this is to say that in order to go towards what you long for you – you don’t start with a plan, you don’t start with a mission statement, you don’t start with a list of characteristics of your ideal mate. You don’t start with how you want to change and fix yourself.
To start – you need to deeply, and whole heartedly COMMIT to it.
No safety net.
Yes it’s scary darling.
But you are sooo amazing. Just commit – and find your wings.
I love you.