During this time of year where we have Thanksgiving and Christmas so close together I’ve often wondered about the irony.
Why have the day that we spend in so much gratitude followed by one of the most commercialized days of the year?
Normally I sort of scoff at all of the consumerism, promising myself not to go overboard on spending and not to give into the pressure of “Buy! Buy! Buy!”
In fact I even had an excellent blog post planned on how to NOT have a Holiday season based on acquisition. (Which I still may do mind you!) It was all very lofty and self-righteous as only we enlightened sorts can be.
But there was something niggling at me about it. It’s just didn’t feel “real” to me.
This morning it suddenly occurred to me that as a person who coaches and speaks on helping people get clear and honest on what their Desires are- why am I then promoting a sense of “Bad! Bad!” about the having of desire at this time of year.
The reality is wanting, longing, desiring is a good thing.
Whether it be in business, in love, in health, or in life in general – knowing what you want is the key to finding your fulfillment.
This is why the tendency to juxtapose thankfulness and desire is so – erroneous.
Because the two are not mutually exclusive.
In fact- contrary to being enemies the two do a profound dance that can help you unearth some powerful insights.
The reality is knowing what you’re thankful for can HELP you get clear on what you’re really desiring.
We’ve all read, heard, seen and know about the importance of “knowing what you want”. This isn’t news. It seems like everyone is talking about it. Danielle LaPorte created a whole system in regard to it. Oprah Winfrey does Life Class about it. Even Abraham- Hicks talks about “Knowing what you are Wanting”.
And while we’re all aware of the need to know what we are wanting- in this current technological age – we’re frequently so cerebral that we can have trouble connecting the dots between how we want to FEEL and what we want.
The feelings part gets us stuck every time.
Here’s where we get to the magic in this post.
If you know what you’re thankful for – and by thankful I mean knowing what you feel a real sense of appreciation and gratitude for – this will tell you what you’re REALLY wanting AND how you want to feel.
In other words your gratitude has the hidden gift of revealing to you your inner core desired feelings.
The Man (my amazing husband) and I started a gratitude practice a few months ago. Everyday we write down 10 things we’re thankful for and why. Every night we think of the thing that happened that day that we are MOST thankful for.
If I read over my gratitude journal I begin to notice a theme emerging.
If I wanted to I could even graph it (how’s that for cerebral?!)
An example might be an entry like:
“I’m thankful for my Vita-Mix because I’m able to make amazing green smoothies that keep my body feeling clean and strong.” (This is a real entry by the way)
From this I could say I want a strong body.
I desire to FEEL – clean, healthy and a sense of well being in my body
I find that I have numerous entries like this or along these lines indicating that this feeling is pretty darn important to me.
If I look at all of my entries I notice I have 5-7 of these types of themes running throughout. My gratitude is revolving around 5 -7 different types of feelings and desires.
I can then use this information to create a perpetual Christmas – giving myself these core feelings and wantings on an ongoing basis.
I can communicate these things to those I love and those who love me – making it easier for them to know what to gift me with.
I can use this as a touchstone -I know what to say yes to and what to decline based on knowing how I want to feel and what I’m wanting.
Try it yourself:
*Keep a gratitude journal for 30 days.
*Every day write down 10 things you’re Thankful for and WHY. It is important that the why be real and actually not theoretical and philosophical.
*Do not read the entries for 30 days
*At the end of 30 Days re-read the journal
*Keep a list of repeating themes
*Notice what your desired feelings and wanting are based on it.