No is a complete sentence – but I think its like the super cayenne that we use in our kitchen. Used appropriately it adds spice and clarifies boundaries. Too much too often and it overpowers everything in the dish.
For some of us – positivity, or having a positive attitude seems a lot like weakness.
We’ve identified so strongly with our struggles that the expressions on our faces most of the time look like we are in a Ice Cube lookalike contest and we are winning.
Our faces say to the world (and more importantly to our families) “Aint nothing funny – life is hard.” (if you truly believe this then Im not going to lie to you – it will be true and your life will be hard – real talk – but that’s a subject for another day)
Yes, she’s ride or die – she aint going no where and neither are you.
She accepts you just the way you are – that’s a good thing right?
Of course…but exactly HOW are you really, when it comes to positivity and laughter??
Are you included when something is funny? Or is everyone so used to the fact that you never laugh that they dont even try?
Do the kids pretty much know that you’ll ‘say no’ – no matter what the question is?
Does she have to wait until you are in a ‘better mood’ – because your everyday is ‘bad mood’?
Whens the last time you truly laughed…long and hard…about anything?
If you cant remember – you need to break the glass, pull the alarm and inject some humor and more fun into your life.
Im not suggesting you put on a clown suit and run around trying to be the next Kevin Hart.
In fact – comedy is an art, so on the real – Im not suggesting you even try to BE funny, at all.
I’m just reminding you that there are a LOT of funny things around you. Life can be hilarious – find the funny. Youtube your favorite comic, watch a movie, listen to a comedy podcast. Look for some funny shyt to laugh at. Turn off the news for a while.
If you havent laughed for a minute, its going to feel strange…but hang in there, it will get better if you keep at it.
And there are health benefits too. Lower blood pressure, reduced risk of heart issues, improved circulation, endorphins in your bloodstream, sex is better, food tastes better….the list goes on and on.
Finally – positive is sexy as hell.
Everybody has 10,000 reasons to be unhappy – scowling faces are as common as table salt.
A man that has a smile on his face invites instant attraction. Women are always curious – she may not want to know what you’re irritated about, but she definitely wants to know what you are SMILING about.
MANIFEST the positive.