How do you feel when a man looks at you?
What do you do?
The Masculine gaze is something that is often struggled with.
When I look around I see women responding to the gaze of men by either being angry, afraid or dismissive.
At some point it seems like women decided that any time a man looks at us- it is to harm us in some way.
How sad is that?
And it’s also untrue.
Our discomfort with the masculine gaze actually does more to harm us as women than it does to harm men.
It’s more of a reflection of how disconnected we’ve become from ourselves and our power than it is a reflection on any wrong doing by men in just looking at us.
It’s a reflection of how we see ourselves as women. Yes, he *might* see you as a sex object, he may desire you. He could also just as easily look upon you with awe and admiration. You really have no way to know and by defaulting to the negative you deny yourself a pretty amazing experience.
Here’s the thing ladies- the Masculine gaze is powerful because there’s a hidden secret in it. It’s a man’s Masculine Essence seeking to find the complimentary polarity in your Feminine Essence.
Yes even if the man is NOT conscious of it -that’s whats going on.
Your place of power is in your Response.
The other day I was walking through the grocery store and a man stopped in the aisle staring at me. I was busy with my list but when I noticed I met his gaze, I smiled slightly – not in flirtation but in Acceptance. I saw something shift across his face. Surprise and… relief? I saw him stand a bit straighter, inhabit himself a bit more.
I was the Goddess meeting his God-self.
I saw him. I accepted him. I became Love.
His Masculine Essence is like a spark, a request, an invitation. – will you allow your innate Feminine to arise and occupy you? Will you stand in your Power and meet him in his as only a Queen can do?
Or will you shirk away? Smirk him? Ignore him? Insult him? Find yourself fearful and embarrassed? Will you respond from a place of ignorance not understanding the cosmic dance that you’re being invited to participate in?
Consider a Queen – she does not shy away from the gaze of her subjects, nor does she shy away from the looks of other royalty. She knows who she is- she actually EXPECTS the attention she receives- it’s part of being who she is after all.
When you meet his gaze from a place of power – it’s not about challenging him. It’s not about staring him down. It’s about knowing who you are. Knowing your vastness, your beauty, your Divinity. It’s about recognizing that he’s giving you a spark but you ARE the flame. When you stand in your glorious self, in your full Feminine, allowing your eyes to meet his, centered, expansive, grounded – as LOVE – there is no place for violation, it is literally AWE inspiring. He respects you MORE (Yes, I’ve asked men and this is true!) This is the power of the Activated Feminine.
When you do this- something changes. Something rises in him. Something intangible. Something beautiful and wondrous and Divine. When you own your power, you also ignite a spark in his Divine. You open yourself to receive the Masculine power that is resident in the Universe. Yang energy. You are saying Yes to Active, Focused, Bright energy in your life – allowing that to be a part of your world. All in a moment. It’s the synergy of the interplay between Masculine and Feminine. It’s Universal and not limited to those you’re in relationship with.
Don’t be afraid darlings. Show up fully in all your glory and power.
Live. Love. Lush and Fearless,
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