We are all both architects of and participants in our own grand Romance. In doing that, We have to realize that the object of Romance is pleasure, not practicality. Romance exists for its own reasons, and focusing on what’s “practical” is the surest way to kill it. –Richard Moore
Yesterday I posted:
“Being loved and held as precious by her family is the seed within a woman that grows naturally to love of herself, creating space within her to attract, receive, and respond to Masculine love. Each one feeding and seeding what comes next, never intending to replace it.”
And I was asked: “What if she did not receive the seed from her family?”
Here is the Transmission:
When the seed isn’t planted it’s the greatest causative factor as to why women will feel like if they love themselves ENOUGH, they will have no need to attract a man or will be unable to accept and receive love from a man or will not know how to respond to Masculine love.
Sadly the call of mothers doing everything and fathers being emasculated only leads to a nation of women who long for love and yet consider that longing weakness and so hold themselves in contempt and loathing while claiming Self Love. The greatest Sin (act against highest self) perpetrated in society EVER is the consistent and pervasive devaluation of Femininity and Masculinity- each is needful and necessary for the actualization of the other.
So what to do?
If a woman has not received the seed of being held as precious from her parents, it is her primary need to find it elsewhere. It is her air, her water, she can not find fulfillment no matter where she searches without it.
Let me be as clear as possible in this…THIS must be her greatest goal and her most valued Devotion. She can not go straight into Self Love without first knowing that she is worthy of it, for what is there to love? And merely saying “love yourself” is not enough. She must open herself to a Divine encounter with both the Divine Father and Mother distinct and equal. It is in that encounter that she Re-Members herself.
Self Love is the result…
The fruit that springs from this root.
Too often women seek to do this work alone. Separate from other people and from the Divine. Neither is possible or even desired as the attempt at further separation is yet a further symptom of the trauma and wound.
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Frequency and vibration is carried on emotion.
This is why no matter how many affirmations you speak, your life will not shift if you continue to believe differently.
And so often this is occurring.
You believe you are a creator yes?
You believe you create your reality?
Do you believe that you are always creating it?
Look at your Profile pages, your emails, your texts.
What have you created beloved?
Do you see it?
Bitter water and sweet water can not exist in the same well. You can not create a life of happiness while holding onto the justification of your pain, sadness, and anger.
There is no judgment my love, only understanding.
You must decide which world you desire to occupy and which version of you, you desire to create and inhabit.
Every day you are deciding, and the decisions with the most intensity of emotion (which is, in fact, the space of belief) contain the Most potent spark of creation.
In Laughter, Love, and Lustiness,
Lessons in Integral Femininity™ -(this one actually applies to everyone)
There is a huge difference between “asking a question” and “questioning” my loves.
In our modern era we seem to have lost the thread on the distinction between the two and yes my loves, it is this distinction that makes all the difference… Both in how the question is asked and in the response that is received.
Asking a question is a connective type of curiosity that seeks to understand. It stems from an innate faith in the person one is asking and belief and acting in good faith towards the person one is speaking to in seeking to answer. In short, it adds understanding.
Questioning is a statement posited as a question that seeks only to assert a position already held. It stems from an innate doubt – doubt in the person one is asking, and lack of good faith in the integrity, knowledge or truthfulness of the person in seeking to answer. In short, its goal is to undermine.
Asking a question seeks to BUILD and bring together by asking for the assistance of another to fill in gaps in comprehension, knowledge, and understanding.
Questions seek to DISSECT and dismantle by engaging in scrutiny of another’s comprehension, knowledge, and understanding.
In today’s world often questioning is positioned as merely “asking a question” to such a degree that I truly believe that it is beneficial to do a self-check to see which one, one is doing darling…
* Do I believe I already know? Have I already reached a conclusion, even if I’m “willing to be wrong”? (If yes, I’m questioning or interrogating, not asking a question)
* Do I trust the answers I will receive? (If yes I’m asking a question)
* Do I believe this person can give me answers I don’t have? (This is humility, If yes, I’m asking a question)
* Do I hope to change the opinions, perceptions or belief of others with my questions? (If yes I’m questioning)
* Did I begin the question with “But…” (This is generally a sign of questioning)
Some of you may wonder what any of this has to do with Femininity…
Integral Femininity™ is all about our ability to be Whole- a huge aspect of that is learning, to be honest in our communication my loves. As you may be able to see or perhaps you have experienced, it is easy to begin a conversation believing that one just has questions and end up in argument land – with one’s spouse, family, peers and ESPECIALLY online.
Questioning has no ability or desire to connect or reconcile, it only passes judgment. If you find yourself unwilling to ask questions, and only desiring to “question”, that in and of itself is a fabulous place to engage with gentle internal inquiry and self-reflection.
I love your face!
I am so happy to see so many women acknowledging their need for their King/Husband/Masculine Beloved!
This is VITAL to our well-being and yet it can be so challenging because so many of us have been taught NOT to need him. Either through our upbringing, through our experiences with having our heart broken, through being taught that need breeds codependent behavior or abuse or any number of things…
The truth is you need him because without him you’re living a life where you ARE compensating for the lack of him. Without him, you can’t occupy your space fully because you end up trying to do both. The desire to “not need a man” is one of the most soul-sucking, depleting and stress causing ideologies ever taken up by women.
It causes us to see stress as a necessary aspect of life, to work harder than we should and to see challenge as a virtue that we need.
Here’s a secret darlings, as Feminine Women, you’re not made to be stressed. That’s not what you’re built for. You’re built for beauty and pleasure and all the”push” and irritation you may have felt towards “those women” who don’t work hard or seem to live a life of joy only separates you further from the truth that… That is YOUR birthright as well!
Here’s a list of over twenty ways that I need my husband just before noon…I wrote these down yesterday as they occurred, this is after being together 14 years darlings…
*Wakes me up with kisses (affection)
* Orders things for our family (providing)
* Carrying heavy bags (protecting)
* Opens doors (protecting)
* Tips drivers (providing)
* Protects me with his presence (security)
* Gives me hugs and touches (affection)
* Lets me lay on him when I’m tired (affection and protecting)
* Expressed concern over my well-being (protection, care)
* Makes sure I eat (providing)
* Gives me his coat or buys me one if I get cold (protection/providing)
* Gives me directions so I’m safe (protection/guidance)
* Looks out for me, aware of my movements (security)
* Understands me (comfort)
* Anchors be when I feel unsettled or concerned (protection, providing, leading)
* Makes me laugh (companionship)
* Affirms my femininity (companionship)
* Stands guard so I don’t have to armor up ever (protecting)
* Holds my hand, touches my back (affection, protecting)
* Guides me through crowds (leading, protection)
* Drives while I provide lovely conversation (leading, protection)
* Negotiates purchases and rentals (providing)
* Makes decisions (protection, providing, leading)
Many women may say… “But I don’t need that”..the metaphor I like to use is that when your body is lacking an essential nutrient, your body doesn’t say “I need this”, typically for a very long time you’ll function without it. But you will see the *evidence* of the lack in various places and perhaps not realize the reason why.
It’s the same here… Without out all the ways a Healthy polarized dynamic works… You experience a great deal of deficiency, and call it life. Stress, fear, depletion, exhaustion, irritability, anxiety, anger, lack of patience, sadness, and more… All stemming from a lack of intimate masculine connection.
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You’ve fought long and hard.
You’ve defended yourself fiercely.
You’ve proven your point, held your own…
And in the end, you’ve found yourself tired.
“Is this all that my life is meant to be?”
Something tender remains.
Delicate and brilliant…
You can feel it… Unfurling within you…
It’s time my love.
Put down your sword and your shield
And come home
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Interpersonal level insights…
There are many times where giving something a “big name” just disconnects us from self and the person or situation we’re experiencing. It’s as if we believe that calling something whatever negative or pejorative term, it then makes the response easier.
I’m not a fan of that.
When we respond it shouldn’t be quick or mindless. Our experience of life holds eons of complexity and we don’t need to dumb it down by name calling with charged terms …
Why do we feel we need these terms in order to justify our pain? As if saying “when you said that it wounded me” is not enough? And if saying that is not enough… Am I using the terms to shame the person into change? Am I using them to distance myself from the complexity these things bring up in me?
Are they are a way to check out?
After all… When you use these terms things become rather binary, yes? And solutions become “obvious” or so they say. At the point where we use these terms, we escalate from an interpersonal concern, conversation, and compassion to fighting against the “wrong” indicated by the term. There’s no more space for our humanity, it’s us versus them… Good versus bad …and my goodness Is known by my fighting against what this person represents.
This is no longer Uncle Charlie who doesn’t understand people of a different race and whom over time I am enlightening him… No… This is a racist whose views must be eradicated now.
This is not my Aunt who drinks too much and sometimes I make sure she gets home safe…but a woman who is an alcoholic and I need to make sure I’m not being codependent (another charged word) so I tell her she’s on her own.
Are these things bringing us closer to our humanity, or are they “charged” to blow up our connecting one to the other with swift judgments based on whatever is the bad person indicator of the moment.
Perhaps we would do well to remember….We’re dealing with another divine being and We should be as careful and reverential as we would in the most Holy of Temples.
The Divine you seek is in your fellow man.
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Some Yoni Egg purveyors list their gems as “GIA Certified” and have language that will lead you to believe that this makes the Yoni Egg “safe and non-toxic” for use.
This is simply untrue loves.
We have contacted GIA (the Gemological Institute of America) just to verify their process and pricing (we originally did this in 2015).
According to GIA:
* GIA provides Identification Reports
* These reports are mailed and include a pdf file.
* Identification Reports cost $120 -$200 for 1 Yoni Egg sized stone.
*The process of Identification exposes the stone to standard gemological testing including but not limited to radiation.
* Identification Reports do not indicate toxicity, but identify the type of stone, if that specific stone is natural or man-made, contains dyes or fillers (impregnated) and the like.
* Identification Reports have nothing to do with gems being safe for Yoni Insertion.
What does this mean for you as a buyer darling?
It means that any business claiming to sell GIA certified Yoni Eggs has simply sent a sample stone to GIA at best and received an identification report on that sample.
The identification report is only good for the exact stone that is sent to them… It is not a certification of a “lot” of stones.
In short the GIA identification report you receive, unless it is sealed with the egg you receive is not for that egg.
Which is good actually.
If it was for that specific egg that would mean the purveyor is actually paying $145 for a Yoni Egg that they are selling to you for $40 AND it has most likely been radiated.
Which makes it a Yoni Egg you wouldn’t want to insert in your Yoni.
At the end of the day darling, “GIA certification” is not needful, nor does it ensure the stone is safe for Yoni use. GIA will issue identification reports on any type of stone including stones not safe for Yoni insertion such as Lapis and Malachite.
Fear is never a good place to try to build a build a healing practice from, nor is fear a good thing to base your healing based business on. Build your Yoni Egg practice on trust.
Be free loves.
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Every year I watch as beautiful, loving, tender Feminine souls – true luminaries and delights begin offering their gifts to the world.
And every year I watch as one of two things occur –
They dry out, become bitter, push harder, become more manic in their energy and more demanding with their offers, take more and more classes, hustle harder create bigger and bigger goals.
They drain themselves… and burnout. Like a sun or a candle flame. The business that held so much promise disappears – sometimes through seemingly unconnected reasons – illness, divorce, family issues.
For years I’ve observed it and now I’m ready to speak on the cause of it:
My loves we’ve been taught that Ambition is this amazing thing, this beautiful thing that we owe the world, our parents, our God.
We’ve been taught that for all we’ve been given we ought to at least give back by making bigger and bigger businesses, getting higher education, more certificates, taking more trainings, writing more books, reaching more people, producing producing PRODUCING.
Ambition – which was once a pejorative has become something to aspire to. In fact, the first time I told someone that ambition was the issue in her life she said, “Well what else is there?”
Ambition literally means “to go around” for most of its usage it’s indicated arrogance and pride… seeking votes even.
And this is the problem. We feel like if we’re not being ambitious, if we’re not trying to get more, to rally more, to be more, if we’re not seeking to curry validation and favor, to look successful, or powerful, or wild or bad a**, then…
A do nothing chick
In other words…
As a Feminine Woman – it’s time we understood the nature of our essence and the power in our practice is…
In today’s world of consumerism and striving, of stress addition and internal exhaustion contentment has become the rarest of Jewels – it is indeed the Infinity Stone of Femininity.
What makes contentment so challenging is that it doesn’t reside OUT THERE – it’s IN HERE.
Contentment is NOT the same as settling. It is an internal satisfaction. What if you built your life, your purpose, your relationship on that? On the deep-seated feeling of Enough. Grace. Surrender…
Is that possible? Yes, my love. Our successful businesses are built on that. Our fulfilling marriage is grounded in it. And hundreds of women are learning this secret…
So how do you find it? That’s what SOFT is all about. Every class is infused with it, ever practice leads to it, every group points in that direction.
How you can be content in EVERY area of your life… and now you can begin for only $7 for 7 days…
Here’s the thing – 7 days is not enough time to complete even ONE class. And the private groups are not accessible during the trial (to protect the sacredness of that circle) – what you CAN do in 7 days is explore the platform, watch a video or two to see if my teaching style and transmission feels resonant for you (even if it challenges you sometimes), and follow your Inner Wisdom. –schoolofalchemy.love/GO
Of course, if you’ve already heard the call and you’re ready to jump in you can do that here (bit.ly/GetSOFT).
The tendency is to focus too much on doing and not enough on being.
To take the smallest touch of being and translate it into doing…
It’s like assuming a handshake means it’s time to make love.
Our discomfort with the process that is Remembering and Coming Home, makes it take longer, more challenging and more painful.
It is why in many traditions the first step is to be stripped of everything. The modern western mind rebels against this fiercely. We hold tight to our opinions, feelings, beliefs, perspectives.
We confuse this with our Self.
And God, they laugh.
You are none of these my darling… You are SOMETHING MORE.
You are worth the journey of coming home to
You have been upside down… It’s time to be Righted.
You’ve been trying to use branches for roots.
Mistaking leaves for fruit.
Your roots are parched and dry… They must be deeply planted in the soil.
Watering branches will only cause rot.
It is watered roots that thrive.
You don’t force growth… You simply tend to the plant and the growth happens.
You allow it.
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