How a woman sees her breasts will determine a great deal about her relationship with herself.
I had a girlfriend once who took no pleasure in her breasts. For her, they were solely for her partner’s pleasure.
I have had many clients who saw their breasts as nourishment for their children only.
Both of these are less than beneficial perspectives.
Breasts symbolize a woman’s self-care and self-nourishment FIRST. There is a correlation between breast cancer and other issues and self-love/self-care.
They also have the capacity for an extreme amount of sensual pleasure for the woman. From stroking to squeezing to pinching.
The de-sexualizing of the breast to aid in the normalization of breastfeeding has a huge blind spot.
It sacrifices a woman’s sexuality in the altar of Madonna-hood, once more forcing women to decide if they would be sexual creatures or virgin mothers, and calling it empowerment.
My breasts being sexual doesn’t disempower me, because sex doesn’t disempower me. Even as I write this they perk up, full… Alive… Vibrant.. Though I’ve not nursed a child in many years.
This is why a “yes… And…” Is So potent.
If they are sexual you would feel violated if someone photographed your nursing breasts without consent. Or if someone stared at your breasts while speaking to you instead of your face.
If they are for feeding you want the freedom to nourish your child in peace, not relegated to balancing on toilets.
Perhaps allowing space for discretion and for making space for nursing mothers to nurse in peace is the key… Both.
Neither of which requires the diminishing of the sexual pleasure the breasts can provide for the woman herself.
Don’t just free the nipple, free our relationships to our breasts my loves.
Mother who nursed for a total of eight years
Caretaker of two amazing and sexual breasts
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