More on parenting, specifically sons – this will challenge you perhaps darling, breathe through it…
Research has shown that after the age of 8 males receive VERY LITTLE touch. Unless they shake hands, are in sports or are having sex men don’t receive touch.
Understand the enormity of this…
Some men go YEARS without touch.
If you think this isn’t a huge problem, please think again.
This means mamas stop touching our sons after 8 ladies.
Rape – is a crime of VIOLENCE all men do not rape.
All men do not need to be taught not to rape.
The idea that you do need to teach men not to rape is as ludicrous as saying Muslims need to be taught not to commit jihad.
It’s based on fear and ignorance no matter the amount of degrees the person saying it has.
What does this have to do with parenting?
In our zeal to jump on social justice bandwagons, to heal our own wounds and our deep fear and desire to NOT BE “THAT” mom-I’m observing many mothers teaching their sons about consent by stopping them when they go to hug, snuggle our be affectionate with them and saying “Wait…you need my consent first” I’ve seen this start as young as the age of 2.
I’m weeping as I write this.
Sorry mama… but preventing your child from hugging you is not the most beneficial way to teach consent. It’s making your child pay a price for something they did NOT do.
I’m going to say it again. RAPE is not a masculine default nor is assault, allowing these social justice issues to creep into creating clinical parents is only contributing to the issue.
This is no different than single moms raising their sons under the fear of masculine abandonment, and the same issues will begin to show up.
Our sons need more affection, not less.
They need to be talked with more, and at less.
They need to be trusted more, given more responsibility, believed in more… not less.
Don’t forget – not only are you teaching them how to treat women – you’re also giving them the first treatment they receive BY a woman they love.
Do you want to be his first rejection?
Refuse to make your child responsible for the behaviors of some.