In many childhood stories the “bad guy” is a step parent. The evil stepmother. The evil stepfather. Because this is given to us during our formative years we are often raised with a quiet but persistent fear that step-parents (bonus parents) can not be trusted.
In each story, the “real” parent is just totally oblivious as the step parent works their evil magic, often killing the child’s parent and coming after the child.
It is often the child who is left to save the day, the village, or other siblings from the horrors the step parent will inflict on them.
In fact, you would be hard pressed to find a step parent who wasn’t the bad guy in a fictional story.
This is true in today’s modern storytelling as well.
Stepmothers are portrayed as conniving, manipulative, golddiggers, who tolerate the child at best with hopes of sending them away.
Stepfathers are portrayed as abusive, pedophiles and rapists who secretly hate the children and hold the mother in contempt for having them.
The only true person who sees what’s going on in either case is… The child.
Here’s the thing my loves…
These tales aren’t true.
But because you’ve seen them as subplots your entire life your subconscious may, in fact, run a program that incites fear and worry that this is something to guard against.
The first step is to recognize that many of your ideas and concerns about a blended family may, in fact, be informed upon by these FICTIONAL stories…
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