Interestingly I received a mixed response from a couple of women in regard to yesterday’s blog post.
“I thought you were all about women’s empowerment – what was that!!??”
That my darling, was truth.
And while normally I wouldn’t create a follow-up post based on one interaction – this moved me in such a way that I really felt it was needed.
I have had the honor and privilege of engaging with thousands of women over the years.
From corporate CEO’s to stay at home mamas. Priestesses to Atheists. Heterosexuals to Lesbians. Young women to elders.
And I have seen something interesting.
No matter how outwardly successful a woman is – if she is unable to embrace her need for others, her desire for support, her longing for love, her passion for connection in some way – she is unhappy and unfulfilled.
Sadly – women are taught and told that we just need to become more spiritual, more actualized, MORE independent and that by doing so THEN we’ll be happier.
So off we go on the hamster wheel of – “Try harder, Try harder”, buying into the idea of being broken when in reality we’re just HUMAN. Spiritual beings here to have a HUMAN experience.
Humans are communal creatures. Yes, there is the outlier who truly desires a hermit-like existence from a place of health and wellness – but MOSTLY we desire to be in community with others.
Honoring and embracing this isn’t weakness – it’s wisdom.
Humanity – needs men and masculine essence – and on a personal level so do we as individual women.
This isn’t to say that ALL woman need to have a romantic relationship with a man. That’s just silly.
It is to say that without men there would not be babies. When it comes to the continuation of the species, they’re just as needful as women.
Without masculine essence the world would be poorer – I daresay the world would fall apart. Just as much as it would without feminine essence. Masculine essence is different from feminine essence but no less sacred and holy. We need each other.
I love women and I love BEING a woman.
I wouldn’t change it for anything.
I own my power as a woman, my empowerment and ability to make decisions for my life, to fulfill my purpose, to make mistakes, to be gloriously imperfect.
I also recognize that we are all one. We need each other. We all hold a portion of the Divine within us. I am not complete without my husband, my children, my sisters and brothers, my Tribe.
This message is not popular- it’s not aligned with how we’ve been taught as women to associate power.
However, it definitely aligns with a way of walking through the world that leads to joy and a deep-seated sense of fulfillment.
Are you tired of trying to do it all alone? Is the quest for what looks like “power” – at the cost of your grounded contentment and happiness a bit too high?
Is it time for something different?
Live. Love. Lush and Fearless,