For as long as I can remember I wanted to do something in the realm of birthing.
First it was to become an OB/GYN (I made this goal when I was 6).
Then, when I gave birth to my first-born son, it changed to midwifery. I had a midwife at the hospital and she was amazing. My birth was swift and unexpected by the other nurses (less than 4 hours) and I recall being wheeled through the hospital halls while crowning. It felt surreal and like something I’d seen in a movie once before.
Three babies later and I realized that it would be years before I could put the time and attention into becoming a midwife and more years still before I wold have a schedule that would allow for something that would take me away from my own wee children.
And so I became a doula. To be a doula is to be literally a “woman’s helper” – whereas a midwife will help you with the technical pieces – the Doula is there to provide the emotional nurturing. She’s there watching, offering, guiding you down the path of birthing your baby. She doesn’t decide for you. She provides information, insight, disclosure so that you can feel into what’s right for you.
She is a light to your own strength.
I have had the pleasure and privilege of helping some amazing mamas bring phenomenal lights into the world. A professional athlete. A woman who gave birth to triplets at home. A woman who approached her first birth with terror and bravery. And while they always are effusive in their praise – it is truly they that have done the work. I simply mirrored their own desires, served as mama bear to their process, became the sieve that clarified their Truth.
And what a privilege it is to do so.
It now occurs to me that this is the same thing that occurs in my mentoring of women. There are tools, processes, practices and techniques that have helped me – truly helped me in my process of becoming. They did not define me for me- but they helped me define myself. Some of these I have encapsulated into my own systems, some of these are systems I’ve gleaned from others over the past 21 years. I take all of this and offer it to her – teaching her how to find her own truth and LIVE it. When she feels like she can not go on, I am her greatest cheerleader – letting her know that she is already doing the work she sought to do. When she needs to know her greatness – I sing it from the mountaintops. I am the blankie of comfort if she needs that as well. It is a wonderful delightful relationship.
Either way, my greatest wish for you this Holiday season is that you find a doula for your Truth. A midwife for your Dream, a Connection for your Flow. You don’t have to do it alone.
In Life, Love and Lushness,
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