We keep coconut water around because it’s good for us, high in electrolytes and amazing at giving you some up-and-at-em when your energy flags.
But we don’t like the way it tastes. It tends to have a funky “off” taste that is easily masked by adding fruit juice.
So Richard asks me “Do you want some coconut water” and I ask if it has a splash of pineapple, mango, ANYTHING to avoid the taste.
He says “No – but you want to taste this one”
I sit up and ask why and he tells me that it actually tastes good.
I wrinkle my brow thinking he’s trying to trick me.
“No really Namaste, it tastes GOOD”
So I take a sip tentatively.
It’s delicious – Cool, Refreshing, and sweet.
We look at each other incredulously.
“There must be something else in there!” So we read the ingredients. Nope nada. Just coconut water and ascorbic acid.
I realize that all this time I’ve been attributing traits to coconut water that had nothing to do with coconut water and everything to do with the BRAND of coconut water I was buying.
How many times does this happen to us?
We start making all sorts of judgements:
- “Men are like _____”
- “Women are like ______”
- “Life is like ______”
- “Marriage/Relationships are ______”
Oh we have good reasons to feel that way, I mean it’s not like we haven’t tried it before right? We’ve been dealing with the opposite sex for years. We’ve been living life as long as we’ve been alive and we’ve been in many relationships – we know what the heck we’re talking about, don’t we?
And just like me and the coconut water- you may be thinking “This is just the way it is – but I’ll keep drinking it” even though you don’t enjoy it. Even though it’s not bringing you joy. The “benefits” of it (not being alone, not being disappointed, etc;) outweigh the funky flavor of the current belief system.
What if the problem is not with men, or women, or life, or relationships, or YOU – but with the brand your drinking?
When I was drinking the “off” coconut water I’d have people say to me periodically – “Really? I love how coconut water tastes!” And I’d look askance at them wondering what was wrong with their tastebuds. It never even occurred to me that perhaps they had just experienced the “good stuff” and I was committed to the bad.
Committed? Yes. The kind that I didn’t enjoy is the brand that I always see advertised, it often has coupons, it’s very visible. And so it’s the kind that I assumed was closest to real and authentic. And I was wrong. 100% wrong.
We do the same thing in our lives. We believe that something is true because we hear it so often. Because it’s said by “everyone”. Because it is so visible.
This is where the awareness of what you want comes in at- it makes it a lot easier to find the flavor you want. It becomes a lot clearer to see the space between what everyone else is saying is true and the truth you desire to actualize. Begin to decide what you WANT – then it’s easier to know when something that you don’t want is showing up and to decline the invitation.
Now that I know what coconut water CAN taste like- I’m less likely to accept the “off flavor” type of coconut water as being okay. If I had been thinking – I would have kept trying brands but because that’s all I’d tasted I assumed that was all there is. How about you start trying other “brands” when it comes to love? Step out of your comfort zone. Do something you’ve never done. Date a type of person you haven’t before. Explore in a way you wouldn’t normally. Read a book, get a video – research for new ways- you don’t know what you may find and how it can impact you positively.
Keep tasting, keep trying exchange the distaste of disappointment and loneliness for the Sweet, Refreshing flavor of love in your life.
Live. Love. Lush and Fearless,