Sometimes you just need a good cry.
In the world there is nothing weaker than water, yet for doing that which is hard- nothing surpasses it
In the world there is nothing weaker than water, yet for doing that which is hard- nothing surpasses it
I adore art, learning from amazing people, beauty in all it’s forms.
Some years ago there was an amazing artist I followed. Her work was amazing, and her personality was quirky and totally her own. I bought her products, got involved in her classes and was enjoying myself immensely.
One day I was googling her name seeking out any and all tutorials she may have made and I came upon a website where a number of people had written not-so-favorable things about her.
Smashing her character.
Making fun of her personality.
Mind you this had nothing to do with me.
But I’ll admit that all of this negativity cast a big damper on my fun.
I found myself beginning to see the flaws others had seen – even though I didn’t want to. I eventually was able to push out the negativity and enjoy her again- but in the mean time I found myself listless and disconnected.
Has this ever happened to you?
You’re in love with someone- a teacher, a man or woman, an idea, a dream. They light you up, make you happy… you feel satisfied and hopeful.
Then someone or a group of someones start tearing it apart. Calling it worthless. Questioning his/her value to you. Causing you to doubt your own heart?
Most recently I noticed this with another teacher I adore- however being older and wiser- I opted to not take that ride – not because I couldn’t withstand it – but because why would I allow the damper on my joy?
And that’s the problem isn’t it?
So often we accept the gossip, the negative video, we click on the link and watch the TV program because of FOMO.
Fear of Missing Out.
One of the insidious lies negativity whispers to us is that we’ll miss out on something “needful” by not tuning in.
By not listening.
That we’re being “naive” and putting our head in the sand.
I mean of course you’re a pretty smart cookie and you can listen/watch/read/ about the negativity and it won’t hurt you at all, right?
Negativity is an infection darling. Of the worse sort.
We tend to think we’re inoculating ourselves against negativity by our exposure.
Nothing can be further from the truth.
Inoculating yourself against negativity by exposure is like letting an Ebola patient cough on you hoping it’ll keep you from getting Ebola.
It *might* work- but is it worth the risk?
You may be wondering what to do instead…
What do you do love?
How do you protect your mind and cultivate a mindset that is congruent with the version of yourself you’re seeking to Embody?
Want to actually FEED the positive in your life? Check this out!
Live. Love. Lush and Fearless,
Yoni eggs are often considered as a fabulous tool for creating more sexual pleasure and increasing vaginal toning. And while I’ve written about that quite a bit HERE– they are ALSO fabulous healers with many additional uses and lessons to teach. I thought I’d share a few of those lessons here from time to time.
Because I’m active in the Yoni Egg community I have the opportunity to hear the concerns of women when it comes to the use of Yoni eggs. One thing I’ve noticed is concerns over imperfections in the eggs.
While I’ve had this concern come up extremely infrequently with my clients – I’ve had women approach me with pictures, questions, and fears of eggs they’ve purchased from others wanting to return them for fear that something was wrong with them.
It kept niggling at me and I couldn’t understand why – when I went into meditation about what the lesson was Spirit said “Self-Acceptance”.
Have a cup of tea and let’s talk darling.
Yoni eggs are made of naturally occurring materials. The are Earth Grown – not factory produced. This means that they often include occlusions, inclusions, and other distinctions that should not be considered imperfections but character traits.
We live in a world where we’ve been taught that excellence and quality are known by perfection. Perfection being known by lack of distinction. This idea of perfection affects women profoundly in every area of life.
Women look at a slight bulge in the belly and call it fat.
A few stretch marks and call that disfigured.
A partner who can’t read her mind is called “indifferent”.
Children who get less than straight A’s are called “rebellious”.
This perfectionist tendency is pervasive in our culture. There is little to no room for learning, growing, and being… well, HUMAN.
When you begin to embark on a healing path this quest for the Perfect can still show up. And show up in ways that can be deceptive.
In other words – your sense of self-worth is not increased by judging others more- it’s increased by judging you less.
What does this have to do with Yoni Eggs?
When your sense of Self Value is synonymous with being critical and scrutinizing with a fine tooth comb of judgement everything around you – this energy pervades everything.
Including your relationship with your Yoni Eggs.
Instead of looking at what the egg has to offer to you – you look at it with eyes of judgement, skepticism, maybe even fear.
As an example, I’m sharing a photo below of some yoni eggs that I own. Some have been purchased from other purveyors (I like to support other women too!), some are mine, one was an egg that a client returned and I felt drawn to accept into my life.
As you look at the eggs above- do you see the flaws? The imperfections? What’s lacking?
Can you go a little deeper?
Can you feel the energy? The healing? The Strength?
And in this, we miss a Great gift.
Within the realm of Crystal healing, there is what are known as “Empathic Crystals”. Empathic Crystals are crystals that were mishandled at some point in their mining or formed in spite of less than ideal circumstances. Rather than being harmed by this- is gives these crystals a unique empathy for human suffering and pain and a DEEPER ability to heal their human companions from trauma, abuse, and injury. The help change the world around you and offer you a huge dose of compassion and kindness for yourself and others.
This from a Yoni Egg that is often rejected by the woman who likely MOST needs it.
Yoni egg Crystals are by definition “wabi-sabi” – they embody the beauty of imperfection. They help us learn that the imperfect defines our lives yet does not diminish our joy and our ability to live lives of excellence.
In fact, it can be the actual embodiment of the sublime.
This is not to say that we Yoni egg purveyors should not attempt to offer the best quality eggs we can. Nor is it to say you need to take an egg that has an obvious deep gash in it and place it within your Yoni- that is not prudent. A good rule of thumb is to see if you can FEEL any sharp edges and if you feel with your intuition that an egg is unsafe – please follow that dear heart. But make sure it’s your intuition and not your fear, not your perfectionism, and not a lack of self-acceptance showing up. Need help figuring it out? Try this or Feel free to reach out!
Live. Love. Lush and Fearless,
P.S – If you’d like a sacred container to hold you, love you, accept you as you Transform – I invite you to join:http://tinyurl.com/GetSOFT
I’ve been working with the moon for a long time now- and I am now beginning to offer a lot more of her lessons. Going deeper into some of the tools and techniques I’ve offered before. Being led towards discussions on the more esoteric or hidden lessons to be learned.
One of the common mistakes that I see being made when it comes to working with Lunar energy is to plant too early or to release too soon. It seems that often we’re not very comfortable with those places of transition. Since the New Moon s nearly upon us let’s talk about her energy a bit.
The New Moon is the time period where (historically) people were terrified. There was no moon to alight the sky, all was dark and void. The New Moon has an energy of emptiness- she invites us, lures us, seduces us towards a delicious emptiness.
This can be scary and in shadow can take the form of helplessness. Hopelessness. It can feel like Lack or trigger our worries about lack – about not having enough or being enough.
We have a love affair with the light. We love illumination. This is wonderful – but what can often be overlooked is that at the beginning – there is darkness and mystery. It is a necessary part of the flow. This emptiness allows us room to create, to conceive. We can not conceive in an already full womb. We can not delve into what it is to have a life full of love and abundance, joy and peace if we have already filled our lives with the pain of disappointment and anger.
This is the New Moons gift to us- to become empty.
To start again.
To LET GO.
It is only after the release and the emptiness that we are then ready to renew, to begin again. To plant the desired seeds and go towards our desired results.
The New Moon is our monthly Sabbath (we actually have another in the Full Moon) our time of not planting nor harvesting. Our time of BEING. We have shed all that we do not need. We have done our work. Now it is time to BE with this emptiness. We needn’t rush ahead and begin to plant again. We let our inner ground lay fallow. We sit in the darkness – welcoming her wisdom and potential. We learn we need not feel this space. This time before Time. We learn to welcome it – this is where the Feminine takes shape. This is where our Feminine energy arises.
The New Moon is our beloved and wise friend, inviting us to the Temple of emptiness within. This month allow yourself this time. Go in. Be empty. Welcome the darkness.
Live. Love. Lush and Fearless,
On this Womb Wisdom/Conscious Femininity path the term Shakti comes up quite a bit. I have observed many of my SiStars beginning to actively seek to embody Shakti energy and on occasion Shakti in her form as Kali.
Shakti energy is incredibly powerful. Just understanding this energy and personage could take a lifetime of study and it would be hubris to presume to tackle this in it’s entirety here in a blog post- That said I would like to offer a bit of insight that I believe can really help as you seek to engage on this level.
Shakti and Shiva need each other– Shakti is INCREDIBLY powerful!! She is awe-inspiring and terrible depending on the aspect of her you’re engaging with. That said Shakti needs Shiva as much as Shiva needs Shakti.
Shakti and Shiva are complements– In modern culture, the idea seems to be put forward that each individual should seek to contain both the Whole of Shakti and the Whole of Shiva individually. I believe this ignores the power of the complementary interconnectedness that this relationship is supposed to embody. I believe that the Shakti/Shiva metaphor is supposed to show us our need for each other and teach us how to honor our differences and reach towards each other for support so that we create from a Divine State of Union not Competition or Devaluing. The Shakti/Shiva energy is-NOT to create even more separation or an energy of us NOT needing each other. It’s to teach us that we DO need each other. In the purely nonphysical state this separation is not needed or present – but our experience of the physical is to teach us how to have this with another – not how to isolate ourselves and leave no room for the other.
Without Shiva- Shakti becomes chaotic and destructive. She finds her efforts frustrated as her energy lacks direction. She makes tons of effort with very little return and actualization. That which is actualized is difficult to maintain. She finds her direction haphazard and flighty. She jumps to conclusions. This is the nature of the Feminine in that the very aspect that is powerful and delicious – becomes less than effective if not held in balance by its Complement which is found at the opposite pole of the Masculine. Have you ever felt this? Extremely creative, flitting from one thing to another – but feeling ungrounded? Unanchored? – This is an awakened Shakti without Shiva. The Yin and Yang combination is meant to be experienced in Divine Union. While there are occasional two-spirits and those who are created to embody both- this is not the typical or normal state. Most of those who are meant to do this sort of interplay solo know this by their lack of desire for companionship (romantic or non) and their hermit-like existence.
In our culture where we prize independence as the height of strength- we miss the true understanding of how to come in contact and connection with TRUE strength that is created in our embodiment of the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine as a COUPLE.
This oneness is so rare that many don’t even seek it anymore and yet I’ve observed more and more people attracting their Twin Flame, more seeking to have this embodiment in their lives.
This is an energetic embodiment and not limited to only Heterosexual couples but can also be found in Gay and Lesbian couples as one partner finds their fulfillment in the embodiment of the Feminine and the other in the Embodiment of the Masculine.
No – I believe that the responsibility of the single individual that seeks to embody either Shakti or Shiva is to find a complimentary energetic embodiment through which they can experience this dynamic interplay. Finding it within yourself is simply NOT ENOUGH. One can find many ways to experience this. Be it through a spiritual practice with others who ARE embodying the complement, or deliberate non-romantic partnership. Let me say here that having a friends with benefits situation is not suitable for this interplay unless there is genuine FRIENDSHIP leading the benefits. This person who is serving as the complement to your Shakti (or your Shiva if you are a man) need to have the following attributes:
There needs to be a feeling that you can trust this person with your Feminine and not fear. The same if you are male seeking to embody Shiva. This person needs to be strong and conscious in their own practice – coming to you as an EQUAL Spiritually – not as your student.
If you look around and do not see anyone that fits the bill – don’t lose heart darling! Begin to put forth the request into the Universe – knowing you attract that which you desire!
I hope this helps you as you begin to delve into this deep and profound practice. May you find all that your heart desires.
Live. Love. Lush and Fearless,
I remember the pain and agony of my divorce.
At times I thought the pain would literally kill me.
It was like walking down a never-ending spiral staircase of razor blades steps barefoot into hell itself.
On a good day. (holla if you know what that feels like)
Vows….well, vows were my friends!
I feel like such a fool, I’ll NEVER be fooled again!
I let this happen. I will NEVER let this happen again!
I vowed any number of times that I would never, ever be in this situation again.
And I worked really hard at making sure I kept that promise to myself.
Armored up….just like a Transformer, or a tank.
Encased my heart in armor plating – nothing could get in…or out for that matter.
I became numb. At the time I remember thinking that numbness wasn’t really what I wanted. But I felt like I had no choice.
Numbness is better than pain, I thought.
I choose to Go Deeper.
I hear the sages talk about how pain can be a teacher.
What’s interesting is that most people automatically assume that the lesson pain is teaching us is to become really, really good at AVOIDING PAIN.
Like I did – Hence the Armor.
Its a common misconception.
And the Real Issue is never pain itself. Pain is just the messenger.
The reality is that pain draws our attention to what the real issue is.
The 10th Law of Karma is The Law of Change. The essence of this law states that “history repeats itself until we learn the lessons that we need to change our path.”
One of the ideas that broke through the fog of confusion and pain is that my steadfast commitment to NOT being in pain again wasn’t serving me.
I also had someone who loved me unconditionally through my rage and my hurt. My Namaste.
Trying to avoid pain by armoring up is tantamount to avoid getting a stomachache by swearing off food.
Either one will kill you if you keep it up long enough. Die emotionally, or Die physically.
I choose to Go Deeper.
I choose to Love.
Love involves risk. Plain and simple.
If you want to have joy in your life, you have to feel and if you want to feel you have to open up. And if you open up….
Well, you can be hurt.
My body cannot live without food.
And my heart cannot live without love. THIS is the lesson that pain was trying to teach me.
Finally I learned to listen.
Lesson #1. Oaths and Vows are Important. – In many faiths, distinction is made between simple promises and oaths or vows. What I didnt realize is that an oath is a promise invoking God as a witness. In our culture de-constructing a vow (like a marriage vow) takes a shiz-ton of effort. When I swear that I wont EVER do something again (like love, marriage etc.) That’s serious bizness. I had to do some serious work to de-story and unravel the commitment I made to the Path of Being Alone, Angry and Hurt before I could truly heal and move on to a good relationship. Speaking of Anger…
Lesson # 2 When the Anger dissipates – Fear can step in to fill its place. Nobody can remain angry and hurt forever. Eventually it fades away….but what came in to take the place of the anger? Fear. Not a devastating phobia type of fear, just an instinctual avoidance of things that didnt feel safe…Like discussing how I truly felt about anything among other things. I realized that all all that anger eventually settled in my heart like sediment. Solidified anger shows up as fear. Its impossible to move forward with a bunch of fear onboard – I had to unravel and de-story the fear that had become a part of me through the process of my divorce. Working on doing THAT led me to….
Lesson #3 Forgiveness is Essential. I cant truly move forward in my life without forgiveness. Beyond fault finding, beyond grief, beyond anger, remorse, self-punishment and the rest….I found that forgiveness was patiently waiting for me. In order to move forward I needed to forgive myself and forgive her as well. There are no shortcuts, substitutes or excuses. Its a proven fact – Unforgiveness will shorten your life. As long as you feel like you have a good reason for holding on to your lack of forgiveness, you can never be truly free. Through forgiveness I eventually learned to see her as another Divine being having a human experience. Through my work with forgiveness I got to the place where I honestly am thankful for my ex and for all that we shared and for everything that I learned as a result of our time together. Working with forgiveness led to …
Lesson #4 Gratitude is a Gateway. A simple, yet life changing practice was the establishment of a Gratitude Journal. Each day I write down at least 10 things that Im grateful for. On those days when I cannot seem to make the first step in a direction toward anything remotely resembling positivity, this simple, powerful act of literally ‘counting’ my blessings gently leads me toward a place of mental and spiritual clarity and proves to be a tremendously effective act of self love and healing. Someone much wiser than I said that its impossible to be thankful and depressed at the same time. I believe this wholeheartedly.
What lessons is your pain trying to teach you? How often have you repeated the same history, over and over again? Have you made oaths and vows to your own hurt and pain? Still Angry? Hurt?
Do you find yourself having the same OLD arguments in a different relationship with a different person? Are you tormented by the same OLD fears, in your new relationship?
In Abundant Love,
“Forgiveness is not the healing. Forgiveness is the cleansing that allows the healing to occur.”
Heyyy lovely souls!
On Friday 6/13/14 Richard and I are doing a Full Moon Lab!
I’ve been getting questions asking what it’s all about. Some of you know about my Slumber Parties – and Downloads – this is in that vein but MORE, in part because my Beloved Richard will be present and offering His insights, and also because you’ll get to experience the energy as well!
The Full Moon has always been known to be very powerful. While many of witchy inclination use it – it’s not strictly confined to such use. Every woman has a connection to the moon and her lunar cycles.
Men can also connect to the power of the Full Moon.
The Full Moon is fabulous energy for recharging, for harvesting and for letting go. Far from just a discussion there will be an opportunity to actually “Do the Work”. Some of the things we’ll discuss in this Lab:
At the very end of this Lab- those who are interested in knowing more about Namaste’s upcoming Sacred Feminine Priestess Mentoring can stick around as she’ll answer questions and give more details.
Bio: Richard is a Shaman and an ordained minister with over 30 years experience. Namaste is an Oracle and follower of the WiseWoman tradition as well as an ordained minister. Both are Certified Law of Attraction Experts, Life Coaches, Reiki Masters together they are the embodiment of the Divine Couple. Possessing gifts of Alchemy and Catalyst they speak Truth and absolute Love into your life.
Live. Love. Lush and Fearless,
Recently I wrote the following as a Status Update on FB:
This moved me deeply.
Something coalesced for me. An idea that had been simmering for a while
The tendency is to fear heart ache more than anything, and, after heartache to say, “I’ll never be the same” and “I’ll never love the same”
In reality- this is true. We can’t love the same after heart ache.
Heartache has the amazing ability to break us open in a way that nothing else really can – if we let it.
Unfortunately the “lessons” we learn often toughen us, callus us, turn us cold and stoney.
This happens because when we have our heart broken we tend to go directly into blame. Our current environment which colors everything uncomfortable or painful in shades of abuse doesn’t help when it comes to this.
But we can deepen.
We can understand that when we’re broken OPEN – the pain of the previous experience gives us the ability to know how deeply we CAN love and be wounded and heal to love AGAIN. We can become both stronger and more softened as a result. We can open MORE, give MORE, remember MORE.
I think of my relationship with my Beloved, Richard. In my previous marriage I thought I knew all of my ability to love and to give. I thought I could not possibly love more.
I was wrong.
In my marriage to Richard I’ve learned a level of surrender, contentment and love that I didn’t know was possible. I’ve become resilient without resistance. It has been precious and profound to experience. I’ve realized that love isn’t known by how perfect our partners are or how perfect we are- it’s known by how well we learn to fit together, how much acceptance we can give to another person. I’ve learned the bravery and devotion it takes to love him more and strangely the more I love him, the better I love me.
The more love I give, the more love I receive. And yet for many – it’s the giving of love- especially without a known “quid pro quo” that is feared MOST.
But we must do what it is we fear to do.
You can do it.
Break open darling.
I love you,
“Jesus said to another, “Follow me.” He said, “Certainly, but first excuse me for a couple of days, please. I have to make arrangements for my father’s funeral.” Jesus refused. “First things first. Your business is life, not death. And life is urgent: Announce God’s kingdom!”Then another said, “I’m ready to follow you, Master, but first excuse me while I get things straightened out at home.” Jesus said, “No procrastination. No backward looks. You can’t put God’s kingdom off till tomorrow. Seize the day.” Luke 9:59-61
“I feel like I need get enrolled in SOFT, but I just need to get somethings in order first”. And I listen to the doubt, the fear and holding back in her vibration. I hear: “I’m scared”.
“I’m feeling like I’m supposed to work with you! It came to me last night… – I’ll do a consult I just need to work on myself first” and I hear: “I need to be “right” first”
Good afternoon loves!
Yesterday I went to an awesome gathering of Beautiful Women – a new Body Church that’s starting locally here in Austin by Qi Dada Ras (check her out peeps- she’s luscious!). At the end of the class, she gifted all of the ladies with a delightful coconut oil created specifically for Yoni massage – mentioning that I do a lot of Yoni work.
Since then I’ve gotten some messages asking about how to use the oil and I realized that I don’t have anything up on here about how to do a SELF Yoni massage- nor are there many resources online for how to do Yoni Massage alone, or my unique take on Yoni Massage.
This is a big deal- because while Yoni Massage is FABULOUS and connective when done as a couple- there is also something delicious about a woman’s ability to massage herself in this way.
First What is Yoni?
If you look up Yoni you’ll get a number of different interpretations from vagina, to vagina and vulva, to vagina, vulva and womb. For the sake of clarity – I like to make the distinction of calling all parts of the Sacred Gates and Passages the Yoni (Vulva, Clitoris, Vagina, and Cervix) and I call the Temple itself (uterus, ovaries, pelvic bowl) the Womb.
Why do a Yoni Massage?
It is vital to recognize as women that we are Divine Incubators. This means that our natural state is one of receiving, multiplying and releasing. Everything that is created must Incubate through the Sacred Gates and Temple of the Feminine. While the Masculine holds the seeds, the Feminine is the precious soil which nourishes and offers it up. Nature does not make a distinction between our Incubating things that serve us and things that do not. What this means is that trauma, pain, negative and limiting beliefs, abandonment, violations, and fears – all of it -once experienced tends to be held in our Yoni and our Womb and we need to release it. In addition to the releasing – we are performing an act of sublime Self Love and Nourishing. Healing is always two stages. Releasing the DisEase and Feeding that which Builds. During a Yoni Massage, you get to experience both with your own hands.
I have specific techniques for releasing these traumas, baggage and more for those who work with Richard or I in a Baggage Drop Session , however, I will share one way of releasing trauma from your Yoni with you – just enter your name and email in the box at the top of the page to receive the Yoni Self Massage PDF – INSTANTLY!.
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