Passion. Polarity. Purpose. Presence.
Come sit by the loom my love so that you may learn one of the deepest Feminine Mysteries…
Weaving was given to women so that we might know that we have place and the mysteries of our being.
The foundation threads are without color or adornment and in truth they are not seen at all when the piece is done and yet without them, it would not exist. This is to teach the Elder women to not envy youth, and the young to respect and stay connected to the elder…for the elder are the foundation….
Recently BaBa Richard and I have been teaching on Civility using PM Forni’s “Choosing Civility” as a textbook. (Teaching available at schoolofalchemy.love) Our students have been so blown away and have told us that this teaching is making a HUGE distinction in their lives because they didn’t realize how many common behaviors are UNCIVIL.
One of the fundamental principles of civility found in the book is:
“Courtesy, politeness, manners, and civility are all, in essence, forms of awareness. Being civil means being constantly aware of others and weaving restraint, respect, and consideration into the very fabric of this awareness. Civility is a form of goodness; it is gracious goodness.”
Restraint
Respect
Consideration
These three words say so very much. One of the benefits of this teaching (as opposed to simply reading the book) is that it provides an opportunity to unpack real present day concerns and to place them within the framework of Civility. Students get to really SEE and understand not just how to be civil but how much JOY and PLEASURE civility adds to your life RIGHT NOW today….
Dear mama,
You have a responsibility to teach your daughter not only that she can do anything…but to take responsibility for what she does.
Teach her the courage of her station…not only that she has ability…but the Wisdom of what she does with it.
Help her come into herself…by being an example of what A Whole woman looks like. How she loves. How she embraces the world.
Teach her comfort in a lack of control.
Contentment in being…
Water deep roots in her by not needing her to validate YOU….
Dear student…
What if I told you that “the patriarchy” was not the problem?
Under the anger, the outrage, the disbelief…would you hear the silent voice of truth?
“Patriarchy” is simply the newest term used for an idea as old as time. Embedded within it is the seed that oppresses you.
You see…the current idea that “patriarchy” is the problem is foundationally the same idea that is based in “Europeans” are the problem,”Carnivores” are the problem, “Jews” are the problem, “Indians” are the Problem, “Colonizers” are the problem, “Protestants” are the problem, “Communists” are the problem, “Capitalism” is the problem, “Muslims” are the problem, “Women” are the problem….oh wait we’ve come full circle……
Good morning my loves!!
Here is a simple and fierce idea that I hope to infect you with
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Let’s destigmatize joy
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What do I mean by that? I mean that while living in the most affluent country on the planet-What we have begun to hold dear is the Elevation of Pain
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By making the discussion of pain the most common pastime, we create a space where it is how we build connection. How we establish and create community. How we pick our roll models. Even how we decide who to believe…
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The question of the hour is “How are you broken?”
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The more categories a person can fit their pain in, the more our culture will value them
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I call it the pain Olympics….
Dear student,
There is a Feminine wound that is festering in the collective and it is harming the women who are infected … I feel your being and Essence groaning under the weight of it.
It is a sign of a deep wound of feeling unworthy and not good enough. A deep fear and shame that you are not valuable enough hiding under a cloak of glitter.
It is subtle and yet screaming at the same time.
It is an inability to acknowledge anyone else as teaching you or adding value to your life.
It shows up in many ways: …
Good morning my loves…
Allow me to share this with you…
Healthy doesn’t mean skinny
Wholeness doesn’t mean skinny
Fat doesn’t mean happy.
Fat doesn’t mean empowered.
Bodies are as individuated as we are. In fact, they are a Tangible expression of our individuation. Our current medical culture is based only on a science that is reduced to measurements. Measurements created to serve those who take them…meaning at MOST they are merely the beginning of a conversation
The opening to curiosity
The bend in the road……
Dear students…
Let’s talk about illness…
In the heroic tradition, wellness is deified and illness is demonized.
This means that much of what is done even in the Alternative health arena is based on this same Heroic tradition.
It is a small step from demonizing illness to demonizing the ill.
Think of it… when did “You’re SICK” become a pejorative?
When did dancing with dis-Ease become a disqualifier? Something to hide in shame and guilt?…
Dear student,
You are being taught to cultivate anger rather than transmute it.
Here is the truth, anger and rage hold a potent energy within them because they are extremely yang. The desire for you to feel more of that feeling and to operate from it is not cultivated in you for your benefit but because those who act from anger are very reactive and therefore easily controlled and manipulated.
I desire not that you ignore or repress anger but that you recognize it for what it is and what it does so that you can transmute it and move through it.
What is anger in truth?…
Dear student…
Manners and etiquette are social lubricant.
Historically associated with social status, to lack either was a sign of a lack of good breeding.
To take the time to learn how to greet, address, depart, dine, request…to offer intention into how one would engage with others is less about elevating oneself and more about elevating how you perceive others. If you hold others in high regard you desire their comfort and find the process of creating the most delightful engagement pleasurable, yes even when one did not agree….
We have many many entrepreneurs, leaders, gurus, teachers, and entertainers in our sphere…and we hear their concerns.
When you are in the public eye many people feel that they need to be a critic of your work, your expression, your life.
And so…we offer the following to encourage you……
Recently in the coaching arena, I’ve seen so many coaches saying others are stealing from them ….and I wonder about it…especially if the coach teaches abundance. Someone writes something and the coach says they are stealing her copy. Someone makes something and the coach says they took her idea.
Now some would say…but you don’t know how it feels!!!!
To which I say…I do! In the last 12 years……
