Recently I was talking to a woman who indicated that she really wanted a relationship …
she really was not comfortable with longing for one.
She really wanted to feel like she didn’t really want a relationship. That she’d be okay either way.
I looked at this beautiful radiant woman in front of me and I told her…
“Longing is the path that carries the actualization of Desire, you’ve got to learn to surrender to your longing”
She blinked at me with wide, teary eyes.
And I understood the fear in those depths.
When we allow ourselves to long for something we also open ourselves up to disappointment.
That does not make you foolish, or weak, or less than.
Without longing, we can not have what it is we truly long for.
“Like unto itself is drawn” ~Abraham
What does this mean? It means that in the space of no Desire- you receive nothing. In the place of fear you receive what you fear and in the place of longing you receive what you long for.
Here’s the thing.
Longing is not lack.
Longing is to grow long, to lengthen to meet a desire.
Longing is based upon a leaning towards what it is that is longed for.
It is the polar opposite of lack. Lack is about focus on what is not.
Here’s where it gets interesting- the Feminine is uniquely capable of utilizing longing. This is predominately because the feminine has a capacity to contain. This space of containment – where we create, gestate, conceive and nurture means that we are amazingly adept as taking a seed and nurturing the longing that seed represents.
We’re fabulous at feeding it until it is ready to come forth.
It’s our unique superpower.
Today- sit with your longing. Allow yourself to feel it deeply. If tears well up, allow them to fall. If joy- allow your soul to laugh. If you must dance, or sing, or make love- do so.
In all you do – allow yourself to long for what you Desire. Your life will thank you for it.