Good morning beloveds,
This morning while riding around something profound dropped into me. It literally took my breath away in part because it was and is the answer to a question I’ve had a for a very long time.
Where did this battle of the sexes begin?
This morning as I was meditating on Yoni love, and the need for us as women to be willing to adore and express worship to the lingam as well – Spirit dropped in and said “The Feminine did a great wrong to the Masculine” as I opened up n curiosity to this message it began to unfold before me.I saw ancient man – who worshipped women for her ability to create who saw it as magic. I saw ancient women knowing the secret of her blood, the secret of creation – that it required both man and woman to create another human being. I saw her telling these secrets to her daughter and it being a secret withheld from man. The Secret of why they worshiped us. I saw the look of hurt, betrayal, and then anger on the face of ancient man when he realized – when he realized that woman had denied his power. Denied his Divinity. Denied that LIFE was not a dyad between woman and the gods- but was a triad between man and woman and the Divine.
It hit me like a blow to my belly… I began to share with Richard and He began to tell me the effect that this long forgotten betrayal has had on the global psyche of men. How and why men distrust women. How it shows up. I saw how with this new rising of the Feminine we also must see and understand the Feminine shadow that also rises. The shadow that seeks to deny MEN their place at the table, their creative ability, their Divinity and necessity in creation. How this story plays out THIS time is up to us ladies.
Watch the video below— share it widely… We are the answer we’ve been waiting for.
I love your face,
It’s true my darlings – empowered women DO change the world – but probably not in the way you think.
We are the way the Universe helps Humanity to REMEMBER.
Empowered women ready to be world changers know how to move from Power OVER – into Power TO… and are wise enough to discern the distinction between the two.
I go VERY deeply into the role and power of compassion and our willingness to be broken open in the video below.
I’d love to hear from you- How have you worked with compassion and breaking open in your own life my loves?
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Good morning darlings!
I LOVE the above quote by Meredith Marple. We talk about self-love. But when is the last time you truly treated yourself like you love your self? No I’m not asking when is the last time you told someone else how much you love yourself. I’m talking about a deep, lavish, effusive sort of self love that nearly drowns you in adoration.
Think you know ALLLLL there is to know about self love? Well love is known by how we care – keep reading to see
(saying the right things and having the right “look”)
Here’s some practical questions to ask:
- What’s the tone of your inner voice?
- What names do you call yourself?
- Do your speak to yourself with patience?
- When you are struggling, sad, feeling weak what’s your inner dialogue like?
- What statements do you hear in the mirror?
- When you’re working out, what’s the inner dialogue?
- When you’re deeply in love… What does your mind say to you?
See – self care isn’t about how much you feel like a rock star when you do things PERFECTLY. No – self care is really known when you AREN’T at the top of your game, and the truth is….
Many women are suffering in abusive relationships with Their MINDS.
If you’ve established no boundaries in what type of self talk is acceptable, if your mind has you living in fear, if you feel like you can’t live without it beating you up… Your mind is abusing you.
The first step in self care… Is CARE.
C- Compassion and Contentment – You are worthy of compassion and contentment. Speaking internally to yourself in a way that demonstrates you feel compassion and believe yourself worthy of contentment is HUGE in the land of Self care.
A- Appreciation – To appreciate is to increase in Value. You want to appreciate yourself based on who you ARE- not what you do. While Self Esteem is based on doing esteemable actions – appreciation is based on value. YOU determine what your innate value is – and darling, if you don’t feel yourself to be priceless- you are under-valuing yourself.
R – Rest – When a baby or a beloved pet is tired to you yell at them? Do you make them keep going and going and going? No? Then why do you do that to yourself? Honoring and celebrating your desire to rest is a core “tell” when it comes to Self care. No matter how much time at the salon, spa or gym a woman spends – if she can’t rest, she’s not really tapped into the deep energy of Self care.
E- Encouragement – Originally the word encourage came from terms meaning “to put in or strengthen the innermost feelings”. How beautiful is that? Too often we DIScourage ourselves by demeaning, devaluing and disparaging ourselves for our innermost feelings and desires – and instead try to “put on” someone else’s idea of what empowerment looks like. An example of this is a woman who longs for a relationship but demeans that inner feeling and “put on” the idea that she doesn’t need ANYONE.
So darlings- How can you give yourself more authentic self CARE this week?
I love your face!!
Good morning my darlings!
I know I know its been a while since we’ve written here, we’ve been very busy getting super clear on what we want and also re-starting something that we began a couple years ago but put on pause and didn’t really delve into that much. It’s our Financial Freedom website! Over there we offer classes, Masterminds, a blogging platform and more to help people find financial freedom and/or get their business mojo on point. Check us out!
For the last couple of months, Richard and I have been on Periscope basically every day (or nearly every day) inspiring, communicating and more! This morning’s broadcast was all about MMA- Monday Morning Alignment!
For most people Mondays suck muchly – but we believe Monday s a delightful opportunity to release and refresh and start the week with blessings!
Join us as we do a few rounds of EFT to help end the Monday morning blah-blahs and supercharge your Brilliance!
So loves – I’m just off the heels of my Taste Retreat which was absolutely phenomenal. Coming off of that we were noticing that we get a TON of questions about how to make powerful decisions. Many people say: “Just be fearless!”, or “Make a list of pros and cons” – but there’s a way to make decisions, come to clarity and much more that guarantees that you’ll make the BEST decision for you.
We use this with most of our decisions- and when we HAVENT used it- we’ve regretted it hugely. (Basically every mistake has been a result of not using it)
And over the years we’ve found out that most of our top successful folks use it as well.
Join us 7/22/15 at 8pmCDT ((pmEDT, 6pmPDT) as we align and alchemize your knowing to make powerful decisions by Flipping the Script!!
Hey there loves!!
We’ve been talking a great deal these days about giving some of the BIG SECRETS we’ve learned about business and what it takes to build a thriving business that can sustain you.
We’ve spent thousands of dollars in trainings, various business options, softwares, programs, teachings and more – and we’ve learned quite a bit in that time.
We both started with a background that went from being in Ministry to climbing the Corporate ladder. We left what many would consider “good jobs” (six-figures) to work for ourselves- doing what we love and what is our PURPOSE.
It was challenging in the early days – but we stuck with it and learned some tools that enabled our income to increase amazingly over less than a year.
In the next few weeks we’re sharing SOME of those tools on our “Life Alchemy” show on Married to Change Radio because one of our visions has always been to help others build a business that sustains your life.
In this weeks show we’re talking about “Masterminding”!
Masterminding is a BIG buzzword in many circles – this week we’re talking Masterminding and how it can HELP or HINDER your state of Attraction.
Having studied Masterminding we came to this idea – that MOST Mastermind groups are leaving out a few VITAL principles that can make or break a Mastermind
We’d love to hear your stories – have you ever been in a mastermind?
What worked? What didn’t?
Also – what would you LOVE to Mastermind about?
Join us on Life Alchemy with Richard & Namaste and Learn how to create a mastermind group for money, love or success in ANY future endeavor!
on 7/8/15 at 8pmCDT (9pmEDT, 6pmPDT)
We Love Your Face!
My Beloved King, Richard has taught me so much in our 12 years together. I frequently refer to His lessons as being a HUGE part of why I am able to do and be who I am today.
One of the first lessons He taught me was “No shrines to past pain”
This short phrase speaks to the belief that while pain may be unavoidable- building little shrines that we must kneel before and pay homage to is DEFINITELY optional.
When Richard and I were first together I was separated (not quite divorced) from my former husband of 10 years. I had a lot of “good reasons” to have shrines to past pain- or so I thought.
I had concerns about trust, concerns about abandonment, concerns about being a single mom… mostly because what I desired I’d been told time and time again wasn’t possible.
I wanted a relationship where I didn’t have to vie for control or worry about protecting myself – or my children. I wanted a relationship where I could just fall. No holding back, no making sure my boundaries were intact and respected.
Basically I wanted something that our current society has no way of creating. Having trust issues while deeply longing for a relationship based on ABSOLUTE trust s quick a sticky wicket.
I had within me my longing and my “issues”.
When things would happen – things that activated not my super powers but my weaknesses – something that would cause me to worry, doubt, being skeptical… Richard would say “We don’t do shrines to past pain”
In this he would let me know that he was willing to work through the issue with me- provided I was willing to break down my shrine- my unconscious need to go back and attend to that past pain, my inclination to leave a little offering to it.
The interesting thing is we ALL have a legacy of pain from some point in our lives OR perhaps yours isn’t even from your Life but from the lives of others in your family, your faith, your culture. The very sensitive among us can carry shrines to the pain of the WORLD and the Species. Some of us have confined our shrine to table top size and others live in a Temple created to house our past pain.
In order to create fulfilling relationships, in order to raise brilliant little humans,
There are many ways to do that…
- Beginning to recognize that just because you think and feel a thing – doesn’t make it true.
- Transmutating the energy of your pain into pleasure.
- Reframing the experience that caused the pain
- Attend The Taste Retreat – Learn how to connect with your REAL Feminine Legacy – Ease. Pleasure. Flow.
This week on Life Alchemy – we’re going to unpack Shrines to past pain that show up as Generation curses, Ancestral memories and also discuss morphic fields. It’s going to be AMAZING. Tune in on 7/1/15 at 8pmCDT, (9pmEDT and 8pmPDT) and be sure to call in and talk to us. We love to hear your voices!!
In Laughter, Love and Lusciousness,
I adore art, learning from amazing people, beauty in all it’s forms.
Some years ago there was an amazing artist I followed. Her work was amazing, and her personality was quirky and totally her own. I bought her products, got involved in her classes and was enjoying myself immensely.
One day I was googling her name seeking out any and all tutorials she may have made and I came upon a website where a number of people had written not-so-favorable things about her.
Smashing her character.
Making fun of her personality.
Mind you this had nothing to do with me.
But I’ll admit that all of this negativity cast a big damper on my fun.
I found myself beginning to see the flaws others had seen – even though I didn’t want to. I eventually was able to push out the negativity and enjoy her again- but in the mean time I found myself listless and disconnected.
Has this ever happened to you?
You’re in love with someone- a teacher, a man or woman, an idea, a dream. They light you up, make you happy… you feel satisfied and hopeful.
Then someone or a group of someones start tearing it apart. Calling it worthless. Questioning his/her value to you. Causing you to doubt your own heart?
Most recently I noticed this with another teacher I adore- however being older and wiser- I opted to not take that ride – not because I couldn’t withstand it – but because why would I allow the damper on my joy?
And that’s the problem isn’t it?
So often we accept the gossip, the negative video, we click on the link and watch the TV program because of FOMO.
Fear of Missing Out.
One of the insidious lies negativity whispers to us is that we’ll miss out on something “needful” by not tuning in.
By not listening.
That we’re being “naive” and putting our head in the sand.
I mean of course you’re a pretty smart cookie and you can listen/watch/read/ about the negativity and it won’t hurt you at all, right?
Negativity is an infection darling. Of the worse sort.
We tend to think we’re inoculating ourselves against negativity by our exposure.
Nothing can be further from the truth.
Inoculating yourself against negativity by exposure is like letting an Ebola patient cough on you hoping it’ll keep you from getting Ebola.
It *might* work- but is it worth the risk?
You may be wondering what to do instead…
- Supersaturate yourself with positivity – put it on the radio, in your social media feeds, in your inbox, on youtube, everywhere.
- Be part of the solution – turn down any invitation to engage with negativity
- Protect your mental garden – try not dwelling on any form of negative thought for 7 days.
What do you do love?
How do you protect your mind and cultivate a mindset that is congruent with the version of yourself you’re seeking to Embody?
Want to actually FEED the positive in your life? Check this out!
Live. Love. Lush and Fearless,
No is a complete sentence – but I think its like the super cayenne that we use in our kitchen. Used appropriately it adds spice and clarifies boundaries. Too much too often and it overpowers everything in the dish.
For some of us – positivity, or having a positive attitude seems a lot like weakness.
We’ve identified so strongly with our struggles that the expressions on our faces most of the time look like we are in a Ice Cube lookalike contest and we are winning.
Our faces say to the world (and more importantly to our families) “Aint nothing funny – life is hard.” (if you truly believe this then Im not going to lie to you – it will be true and your life will be hard – real talk – but that’s a subject for another day)
Yes, she’s ride or die – she aint going no where and neither are you.
She accepts you just the way you are – that’s a good thing right?
Of course…but exactly HOW are you really, when it comes to positivity and laughter??
Are you included when something is funny? Or is everyone so used to the fact that you never laugh that they dont even try?
Do the kids pretty much know that you’ll ‘say no’ – no matter what the question is?
Does she have to wait until you are in a ‘better mood’ – because your everyday is ‘bad mood’?
Whens the last time you truly laughed…long and hard…about anything?
If you cant remember – you need to break the glass, pull the alarm and inject some humor and more fun into your life.
Im not suggesting you put on a clown suit and run around trying to be the next Kevin Hart.
In fact – comedy is an art, so on the real – Im not suggesting you even try to BE funny, at all.
I’m just reminding you that there are a LOT of funny things around you. Life can be hilarious – find the funny. Youtube your favorite comic, watch a movie, listen to a comedy podcast. Look for some funny shyt to laugh at. Turn off the news for a while.
If you havent laughed for a minute, its going to feel strange…but hang in there, it will get better if you keep at it.
And there are health benefits too. Lower blood pressure, reduced risk of heart issues, improved circulation, endorphins in your bloodstream, sex is better, food tastes better….the list goes on and on.
Finally – positive is sexy as hell.
Everybody has 10,000 reasons to be unhappy – scowling faces are as common as table salt.
A man that has a smile on his face invites instant attraction. Women are always curious – she may not want to know what you’re irritated about, but she definitely wants to know what you are SMILING about.
MANIFEST the positive.
Yoni eggs are often considered as a fabulous tool for creating more sexual pleasure and increasing vaginal toning. And while I’ve written about that quite a bit HERE– they are ALSO fabulous healers with many additional uses and lessons to teach. I thought I’d share a few of those lessons here from time to time.
Because I’m active in the Yoni Egg community I have the opportunity to hear the concerns of women when it comes to the use of Yoni eggs. One thing I’ve noticed is concerns over imperfections in the eggs.
While I’ve had this concern come up extremely infrequently with my clients – I’ve had women approach me with pictures, questions, and fears of eggs they’ve purchased from others wanting to return them for fear that something was wrong with them.
It kept niggling at me and I couldn’t understand why – when I went into meditation about what the lesson was Spirit said “Self-Acceptance”.
Have a cup of tea and let’s talk darling.
Yoni eggs are made of naturally occurring materials. The are Earth Grown – not factory produced. This means that they often include occlusions, inclusions, and other distinctions that should not be considered imperfections but character traits.
We live in a world where we’ve been taught that excellence and quality are known by perfection. Perfection being known by lack of distinction. This idea of perfection affects women profoundly in every area of life.
Women look at a slight bulge in the belly and call it fat.
A few stretch marks and call that disfigured.
A partner who can’t read her mind is called “indifferent”.
Children who get less than straight A’s are called “rebellious”.
This perfectionist tendency is pervasive in our culture. There is little to no room for learning, growing, and being… well, HUMAN.
When you begin to embark on a healing path this quest for the Perfect can still show up. And show up in ways that can be deceptive.
We call it “Not settling” – which sounds good- but in reality, understanding the beauty in what *IS* is not settling- it’s actually elevating one’s life by infusing it with contentment.
In other words – your sense of self-worth is not increased by judging others more- it’s increased by judging you less.
What does this have to do with Yoni Eggs?
When your sense of Self Value is synonymous with being critical and scrutinizing with a fine tooth comb of judgement everything around you – this energy pervades everything.
Including your relationship with your Yoni Eggs.
Instead of looking at what the egg has to offer to you – you look at it with eyes of judgement, skepticism, maybe even fear.
As an example, I’m sharing a photo below of some yoni eggs that I own. Some have been purchased from other purveyors (I like to support other women too!), some are mine, one was an egg that a client returned and I felt drawn to accept into my life.
As you look at the eggs above- do you see the flaws? The imperfections? What’s lacking?
Can you go a little deeper?
Can you feel the energy? The healing? The Strength?
Here’s the truth- we tend to judge our yoni eggs in the same way we judge ourselves (and likely judge our yonis!)
And in this, we miss a Great gift.
Within the realm of Crystal healing, there is what are known as “Empathic Crystals”. Empathic Crystals are crystals that were mishandled at some point in their mining or formed in spite of less than ideal circumstances. Rather than being harmed by this- is gives these crystals a unique empathy for human suffering and pain and a DEEPER ability to heal their human companions from trauma, abuse, and injury. The help change the world around you and offer you a huge dose of compassion and kindness for yourself and others.
This from a Yoni Egg that is often rejected by the woman who likely MOST needs it.
Yoni egg Crystals are by definition “wabi-sabi” – they embody the beauty of imperfection. They help us learn that the imperfect defines our lives yet does not diminish our joy and our ability to live lives of excellence.
In fact, it can be the actual embodiment of the sublime.
This is not to say that we Yoni egg purveyors should not attempt to offer the best quality eggs we can. Nor is it to say you need to take an egg that has an obvious deep gash in it and place it within your Yoni- that is not prudent. A good rule of thumb is to see if you can FEEL any sharp edges and if you feel with your intuition that an egg is unsafe – please follow that dear heart. But make sure it’s your intuition and not your fear, not your perfectionism, and not a lack of self-acceptance showing up. Need help figuring it out? Try this or Feel free to reach out!
Live. Love. Lush and Fearless,
P.S – If you’d like a sacred container to hold you, love you, accept you as you Transform – I invite you to join:http://tinyurl.com/GetSOFT
I have to say that I’ve been looking forward to this Birthday for months!! And not just because it means cake, ice-cream and other delicious treats… No!
Because I absolutely LOVE a reason to give away awesome-sauce to people. And Spirit dropped in 2 things to offer to you on my Birthday (we roll like that – Source and I)
1. Have you been thinking about, hearing about, kinda hmm’ing and ha’ing about my School of Feminine Transformation? Perhaps you’ve taken a bunch of classes and feel a little tapped out – or- you don’t want a bunch of fluff that’s content LIGHT. Well my darling – whatever you reason for being hesitant I’m giving you something for FREE – I’m calling it the SOFT Sampler.
It’s a super delicious sample of 5 of the classes in The School of Feminine Transformation (SOFT) – as well as a Full length BONUS. You get videos with USABLE tips, ideas, and practices. Well over 2 hours of video absolutely free!
Videos are actual sections taken from the following classes:
- Moon Mysteries
- Sacred Feminine Intensive
- Feminine Spirit
- The Nest
- The Sweet Spot
Consider this a thin, decadent slice of the most out-of-this world cheesecake you’ve ever tasted – only it’s for your LIFE. Yah. That.
2. I always say I’m not getting old – I’m becoming more seasoned. One of the ways I stay young looking (nope- I’ll never tell my actual age- but I do have a number of adult children if that gives you a hint!) is to give myself permission to re-live my youth. I blow bubbles, skip, play hide and seek and a number of things because it imbibes me with youthful energy. Going back to those care free days can sometimes give us the most amazing rewards yes? Well when S.O.F.T. was first released it was available for only $99. The second Gift I’m giving you for my Birthday is a ROLL Back price on SOFT!! As my gift to you- you get to experience One Year of SOFT for that Roll Back Price- but be quick my loves! This pricing is only available for TODAY only!!
Okay I’m off to go do something fun for my Birthday! I hope you enjoy your gifts as much as I’ve enjoyed preparing them for you sugar face!