The greatest thing that undermines a woman’s ability to have a happy relationship with herself as well as a Masculine Complement, is not the narrative of her own life- but her internalization of the narrative that is fed to her by her family/society:…
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Relationship Lessons: He’s a Man, not your best Girl friend part 2
Many ladies have asked me “How does making him my best girlfriend look”…
Here’s the thing my love… It looks different for everyone.
I know this sounds crazy but if you’re in a permanent partnership and you find yourself often offended by how he’s choosing to spend his time, by his interests etc; that’s a good sign that you’re trying to make Him into your Girlfriend….
I recently read an article in Cosmopolitan against celebrating the gender of one’s baby.
The person who wrote it seemed to have a big chip on her shoulder against baby showers in general and even gestational markers as being things that convey to a woman that her value is in her ability to grow a tiny human.
She suggests that women have other things to be concerned about and this is what’s adding to the stress.
I’d like to offer a completely different take……
Relationship Lessons- He’s a Man, not your Girlfriend darling. Part 1
Good morning lovelies,
I awakened this morning thinking about relationships. One of the biggest mistakes a woman can make is to try to make her husband/boyfriend into her best GIRLfriend.
Don’t get me wrong my loves, my King is definitely my BESTfriend and Favorite Human… But He’s not my girl friend and there’s a distinction with a Huge difference in that.
Many women don’t understand or realize how they do this nor are they conscious of why they do this or the eroding this does to the relationship….
You may have noticed the idea of having or expressing gender normative behavior has become somewhat of a pejorative. I hesitated to share this due to the sensitivity of the topic and my desire to not wound those whose biologic sex and energetic gender are are not the same. That said I’ve been told that this is important enough to need saying and so I ask that it is read in the spirit of love, life and compassion that it is offered.
There are many incorrect and nonbeneficial beliefs associated with gender norms so let’s begin to unpack and clarify it….