What is my best in this very moment?
Now is the moment of power – Now is really all we have.
When it comes to doing MY personal best whenever it is brought to my consciousness,
Now….is also really all that I need.
If I slide over into dreaming about the future…or regretting the past – either of those exercises that take me away from right now, also take me away from actually being able to DO anything to improve my situation. Have you noticed how absolutely still you become when your mind is occupied with what happened before (the past) or what might happen tomorrow (the future)?
There seems to be something about not being present that is a huge energy drain – its almost as if the effort of focusing our consciousness on somewhen else is such an energy suck that it reduces us to near immobility.
Dont worry though – its not your fault. That’s just how most of us are wired. The good news? Its easy to fix.
Here are three super easy steps to take to get centered, focused and to become more present instantly;
Ask yourself – What is MY best in this moment and paying attention to these three things;
- How am I sitting? (posture),
- How am I breathing? (am I conscious of my breathing deeply, fully?) ,
- How am I really feeling? (do I feel that Im in control of my emotions or are my present circumstances controlling my emotions)?
Why are these important?
When I focus on how I am sitting, I am conscious of my body. When Im conscious of my body I remember that I do not have to live in my head all of the time. When I focus on my breathing, I relieve stress and eliminate toxins from my body and I receive an immediate boost in energy and awareness as I consciously take in more oxygen. And when I notice how I am feeling, I am then in a position to acknowledge my emotions in a way that promotes emotional health.
If I develop the habit of doing my best in these little spaces – in these everyday, regular places in my life – then in times of crisis I find that I have resources to draw upon.
When I notice how Im sitting and I change to a position that feels better….well, it FEELS BETTER in a small way, and that improves the whole.
When I observe how Im breathing and I relax my shoulders and relax my belly and take a DEEP BREATH….having more oxygen onboard…that FEELS BETTER TOO!!!
The amazing thing is that we can do these things multiple times a day – whenever we are feeling depleted or tired or spent, and literally FEEL BETTER. And it costs us nothing.
The consequence for not doing this consistently is that when it matters, instead of being able to draw upon the best and highest, we tend to focus upon the ‘ideal’ instead – and the ideal will almost always be beyond our ability to achieve in that moment, which becomes a focal point, a reminder for my inner critic to then hammer me with failure and disappointment.
(like when I think about eating right….well, that reminds me that I should be in better shape, I should workout. Yeah…a gym membership! One day soon. I’ve been putting that off too long already. blah, blah f-ing blah.)
You know that drill.
That’s not what I want you to do.
When we are truly breathing deeply, we activate our Parasympathetic Nervous System,
which helps clear our mind, burn fat, speed up our metabolism, and remove toxins from our body.
This is serious business – over 70% of all the toxins produced in our bodies are removed through breathing!
When its time to talk about the relationship – its easy to believe that your shoulders being tight,
and your shallow breathing
and your headache
and being tired.
are just PART OF THE EXPERIENCE – of having a serious discussion.
But that is really bullshit.
It doesnt have to be that way.
Not now and not ever.
In fact, if you find yourself having all of that OTHER physical stuff going on – you obviously arent ready to talk about anything constructively.
Especially something important.
So, first things first.
I just want you to breathe. Deeply. Get more oxygen in your lungs and help your whole body feel just a little bit better.
Relax your shoulders. Soften the belly.
To detoxify the body and balance hormones, practice deep breathing every day.
In those situations where you can just feel your blood boiling or anxiety levels rising, try this:
- Breathe in silently through your nose to the slow count of 4.
- Hold your breath to the count of 7.
- Exhale through your mouth to the count of 8, making a slight audible sound.
- Repeat the 4-7-8 cycle another three times, for a total of four breathing exercises.
This isn’t beyond your capabilities and you need nothing else to help you, just yourself.
Now is your Moment of Power – Do YOUR personal best..
Dont forget to breathe.