Heyyy lovely souls!
On Friday 6/13/14 Richard and I are doing a Full Moon Lab!
I’ve been getting questions asking what it’s all about. Some of you know about my Slumber Parties – and Downloads – this is in that vein but MORE, in part because my Beloved Richard will be present and offering His insights, and also because you’ll get to experience the energy as well!
The Full Moon has always been known to be very powerful. While many of witchy inclination use it – it’s not strictly confined to such use. Every woman has a connection to the moon and her lunar cycles.
Men can also connect to the power of the Full Moon.
The Full Moon is fabulous energy for recharging, for harvesting and for letting go. Far from just a discussion there will be an opportunity to actually “Do the Work”. Some of the things we’ll discuss in this Lab:
- What happens when you let go?
- How does the energy of the Full moon impact your ability to manifest?
- Recharging- how to do it and when to do it for the most potency.
- Our latest experiences with Releasing and the surprising results that occurred.
- Why you may not be getting the results you want in your conscious creation and how to change that.
- How to take your energetic experiences from intellect to actual.
- Recorded Replay available
- Q and A
- Much more!
At the very end of this Lab- those who are interested in knowing more about Namaste’s upcoming Sacred Feminine Priestess Mentoring can stick around as she’ll answer questions and give more details.
Bio: Richard is a Shaman and an ordained minister with over 30 years experience. Namaste is an Oracle and follower of the WiseWoman tradition as well as an ordained minister. Both are Certified Law of Attraction Experts, Life Coaches, Reiki Masters together they are the embodiment of the Divine Couple. Possessing gifts of Alchemy and Catalyst they speak Truth and absolute Love into your life.
Live. Love. Lush and Fearless,
Did that title make you wince? LOL Good!
At some point, I realized that much of what amounts to drama and contention in many romantic relationships is because no one knows what their place is.
With the advent of egalitarian relationship dynamics – everyone has begun to attempt to occupy everywhere in a relationship. This doesn’t work in any other group dynamic of people- it leads to chaos.
In businesses- you know what your job description is.
In the military – there’s the understanding of rank and position
In spiritual traditions – we have order by virtue of what position one occupies.
But in romantic relationships – everyone wants to occupy everywhere.
A year or 2 ago I was watching a survivalist show where they dropped two men in the middle of nowhere. One man was very hippie-esque. Very much a tree hugger and gentle spirit. The other guy was a former marine. Very “kill or be killed” in his world view. What my Beloved and I noticed almost immediately was that the tree hugger dude knew more than the marine about how to find food, how to make sure water is clean and drinkable, the marine dude knew more about how to kill, how to survive when threatened. They had a difficult time working together because both people wanted to be in charge of EVERYTHING.
How often does this happen in relationships? Honestly, I see this occurring more in women than men of late. This idea that the state of the relationship would do wonderfully if he just DID IT HER WAY.
I was listening to a lecture by this amazing African Sister a few weeks ago. She was describing how some things such as food and how we eat – are so important in her culture because it provides a sense of place. When a person doesn’t know their place in their family, doesn’t know they have a place, and that they are impactful in their family – frequently that’s when you find more delinquency and abhorrent behavior.
I was contemplating this while thinking on our modern 1st world perspective. We are full of sayings and affirmations that tell those that we are in relationship with “You don’t really matter to me” or “You only matter as long as you’re doing what I want”.
What does this have to do with place? As we as women have become more independent, more self-assured, as we have found ourselves feeling less and less connected to our need for relationships we’ve begun to say more and more…
“I don’t need a man!”
Now – sit with this for a moment. Feel into this saying.
Does it truly feel like Love?
Does it truly feel like a state of empowerment?
Or does it feel like armor? Like pain cloaked in indifference?
Does it feel like anger?
Maybe – it feels like fear?
If we displace our menfolk – our loves, our Beloveds by telling them consistently that we don’t need them, by behaving in ways that say “there is no place for you here, because I’m occupying EVERYTHING” – is it any wonder why he’s not showing up powerfully and presence-fully in the relationship?
Do you know what we call a man who forces himself into situations where he isn’t wanted and openly and actively received?
Our society calls such a man a rapist.
Contrary to the media narrative- the VAST majority of men DO NOT identify as that nor do they have those inclinations.
So if you question his parenting ability – and treat him as if he doesn’t care about his children, or is unneeded in the lives of his children – he’ll often walk away.
If you tell him often enough that he doesn’t love you and doesn’t care about you – he’ll detach from you emotionally.
If you push him out of all decisions as pertains to the household, the family, your life- he’ll assume a position of passivity on the sofa or in a corner of his “man cave” – because that’s all you’ve given him.
If you want him to occupy the relationship…if you want him to be present with you- you have to realize that his masculine way of doing things will differ HUGELY from your way of doing things. That his mind is wired differently and that this is equally valid and needful in the relationship.
When we talk about understanding “place” in relationships – there can be an automatic bristling. Our western mind understands “place” as being always automatically “under” and “less than”. The last time here in the US someone tried to make a “separate but equal” designation it did not turn out well and the energy of that national memory is still held in many people’s emotional cellular memory.
That said – knowing your place can be incredibly freeing. Defining within a relationship who will handle what- means that both people know what will work for the whole. Both people (or all people) are being valued, acknowledged and are known to be needful for the function and flourishing of the whole. Sitting and figuring this out can also be a huge “tell” for what’s going on. Sometimes as women we feel like EVERYTHING is on us- but that’s because we’ve assumed the responsibility for everything without ever even asking our partner.
In my relationship, it’s kind of like Cyrus said on Scandal “I serve at the pleasure of the President.”
Meaning that while I give him my insights, observations, and opinions, at the end of the day, he’s the Leader. He makes the call, and I willingly go in the direction he chooses.
Yes, ladies, I’m an empowered, fulfilled, strong and surrendered wife.
That makes my heart sing and he loves it. It works for us.
For you- the areas or place may need more specific definition. That’s equally valid. What’s most important is that your partner knows that he has a place. Your Beloved needs to know that he’s needed, valued and wanted in the relationship.
Live. Love. Lush and Fearless,
P.S – If you’d like a sacred container to hold you, love you, accept you as you Transform – I invite you to join:http://tinyurl.com/GetSOFT
I talk a lot about women’s stuff.
Yonis and orgasms, menstruation and hormones amongst other things. And while here on the blog, it’s all out in the open, on a person to person basis it’s my preference to speak about these things in women only spaces.
If I had to sum up why that is my preference I’d call it -The Feminine Mystique.
No, I’m not speaking about the book of the same name- I’m talking about the TRUE Feminine Mystique – the general principle of the Mystery of BEING a woman.
In the days where men and women each had their own sphere, women had things that were uniquely ours- for instance, the Blood mysteries was ours and men respected that and even held it in a sense of awe.
Many times we as modern women do not have mysteries that are passed down to us from our mothers, aunts, grandmothers. When I was a little girl I remember my grandmere telling my mother “We don’t have our mystique any longer- because everything that is part and parcel of being a woman is put out into the world for everyone to see.”
She is so wise my grandmere. And the saddest part?
We mistake this for empowerment.
What I’ve come to understand is that
I sell waistbeads and when women ask me about wearing their waistbeads I tell them that they should be hidden under their clothing. They should only be seen by her mate and herself. Not because using them as a general adornment for the world is “bad” but because holding them as something precious for only her and her Beloved is so incredibly GOOD.
The same can be said of discussions about the Yoni. I’m on a group that is all about appreciating the Yoni. I must say I was surprised and disappointed when there was a huge influx of men joining. I adore men and their unique energy. However, in a group about appreciating our Yoni’s I thought women needed a space where we can discuss those secrets amongst ourselves. Much like men have a sweat lodge (or other lodge) devoted to them – women need spaces where we can talk about the mysteries of our Feminine – while keeping them mysterious.
In order to cultivate your Feminine Mystique you have to cultivate a trait that we don’t speak of often – and that is discretion.
I’m not talking about discretion in the sense of not gossiping (although that’s true too). I’m also not talking about lying or deception. I’m talking about discretion in the sense of not sharing all your intimacies with the general public. Have practices, rituals, processes that you do that you don’t share with the world.
Create a sense of sacredness and holiness around your Femininity.
This is an opportunity to increase the power of your Feminine expression. This is why many of the meditations, and practices I teach in SOFT I don’t discuss in detail outside of the School.
Because they’re Holy. Set apart. Because
as opposed to spilled all over the internet.
It’s been my experience that the creation of the Mystique actually serves our Feminine Heart in ways that are more than the sum of its parts. We are fed and nourished by it.
I want to encourage you to invest in yourself in this way. Some practical ways to apply this:
Commit to not discussing your moontime and your moon practices in mixed company
Wear your waistbeads under your clothing, or low enough on your hips so they are not seen.
Create a sense of privacy around your Yoni egg practices.
When you’re sharing your Mysteries with other women, encourage them to maintain the container by being discreet.
Be aware of what you’re discussing on social media.
Can you think of some other ways to create and cultivate your Mystique?
Live. Love. Lush and Fearless,